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« Reply #20 on: June 17, 2014 01:54:29 PM »

Agree completely with you Ludi - though I was upset lately when I had spent ages on a parcel (I am a fairly slow crafter anyhow - and the amount of new things I did made it even longer). The parcel I received was a lot better than the one I sent - but my partner made it fairly clear she was unhappy with what I sent. I sent her a pm apologising if she didn't like it - but she did not reply. I have had partners in the past who have sent better parcels, and those who have sent worse than what I have sent them - but I am still appreciative of everything I receive - because I appreciate people spending time making things for me even if it is not what I would have chosen myself. To me swaps are meant to be fun - i want my partner to enjoy themselves when they are making for me. I never am pleased with what I send - but I always make to the best of my ability. TBH I am now considering whether to keep swapping or not - as the feeling of not being good enough is awful.

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« Reply #21 on: June 17, 2014 03:13:43 PM »

Aw, Ratfinkz, don't give up!  Everyone here has different abilities and it's the trying and caring that counts!   Kiss

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« Reply #22 on: June 17, 2014 03:59:51 PM »

Ratfinkz...I am so sorry that you've had that experience with swapping.  I've been in over a hundred swaps, and I could count on one hand the times that I've been truly disappointed with what my swap partner sent (i.e.-no time or thought was put into the items that were sent, they were falling apart, obviously not my tastes, etc...).  However, I've NEVER told the partner that I was disappointed.  I think that is rude and it is more of a reflection on that person, rather than on you and/or what you sent.  I've seen your work on Craftster, and you are an amazing crafter.  Please don't let this experience sour you on swapping!  I guess it's just a numbers game, the more often you swap, chances are you are going to run into a few experiences that may be unsettling.  But the other side of that is that you more often make friends and receive swap packages that are AMAZING!!!!!!!!!

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I have quite a few swaps under my belt and I still have that feeling of not being good enough.  But I continue to swap because it makes me happy to create.  I love swapping online because even if my partner dislikes what I make, I will usually never know.  I know that I try my hardest when I craft for others but I also know that my likes and preferences are not always the same as other people.  So even though I am proud of my creations, I understand that others might not feel the same way.  As long as I hear a little thank you, that is satisfying enough for me.  I also have received items that are not my style but I appreciate the time and care that has gone into the package and let my partner know I appreciate it. That is what is the most important to me.  When I do not hear anything from my partner, I admit my feelings hurt but that happens less than the admiration and appreciation does.  Hang in there and don't let a few bad experiences thwart your creativity. 

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« Reply #24 on: June 17, 2014 11:17:33 PM »

That's terrible, Ratfinkz! I'm sorry that happened! Sad No one should be made to feel like that!
I also was not trying to complain about anything, just voicing another side of the "partners have feelings" debate. I still love swapping, and a lot of the things I really treasure have come from swaps!!

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« Reply #25 on: December 19, 2014 03:04:09 PM »

I always feel like this is a bit of a tightrope. I can get really into learning something new about my partners interests. I have huge chunks of free time. I can be really fast on things that I am good at. I hate to make my partner feel bad so I've been trying to just do what the swap requires with a little extra but then someone like LadybugsAndBumblebees  Wink knocks my socks off and I feel bad for not going overboard too. As long as intentions are good, they post pics and say what they liked or thank you in a timely fashion, I'm fine.

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« Reply #26 on: December 18, 2015 11:42:14 AM »

Stuff I have noticed lately that sorta bug me... Partners posting pics, but not saying who made the wonderful goodies. Seems like common sense to me. Have seen it quite a bit lately. Posting your partner's name, takes, what, fifteen seconds?

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« Reply #27 on: December 22, 2015 07:52:00 AM »

More like three seconds. I believe that the obligations of swapping include posting pictures of what you receive, as per the official rules, and also to publicly thank the cool person who crafted for you! One of the best things about Craftster is the mutual respect we have for each other. Saying thank you is an aspect of that!

Heck, half the time I want to thank people for creating cool things I can look at it in the galleries to feed the craft monster inside me!

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