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Topic: HELP! Moving in with boyfriend, completely different styles!  (Read 1232 times)
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« on: January 25, 2011 06:13:15 PM »

First off, the boyfriend lived in this house with his ex-wife, and he told me that he wants me to feel like this is MY place, that he wants me to be comfortable and feel at home, and so he told me aside from his living room furniture, his bed that he bought after his divorce (king size) and his wardrobe armoire and 2 bedroom dressers, anything else in the house I have free reign to get rid of paint, walls paint, decorate, whatever. I ask him what he likes and he only tells me that its up to me, if I want to re-arrange the way he organizes the kitchen, then do it, but he cooks more than me so I'll leave that alone, but he really is being very open. I tell him I don't want to pick colors he won't like or a style he doesn't like, and he said he will tell me if he doesn't like something to the point he can't live with it, but otherwise he wants me to make my mark on this house and make it mine.

Also, he is country, like country country, like hunts, grows his own veggies and can live off the land. I'm a city girl, not big big city, but city girl compared to him. The things I see that he likes seem to be opposite of me, lol. I'm also 1/2 Japanese and like to have some asian influence things around my home.

That said, here are my questions/issues:

1) I am 37 yrs old and have ALWAYS lived in apartments where you can't paint or put holes in the walls, so part of me REALLY wants to paint, but the other part of me thinks maybe I shouldn't do it till after we've lived together a while, ya know, in case it doesn't work out, lol. Opinions? and I dont even know how to begin to pick out paint.

2) The boyfriend is a country boy, and (please forgive the animal lovers, please no bashing) has a deer head mounted...IN THE BEDROOM! He only has the 1 deer head, but he's proud of it, and its in the friggin bedroom. He said if I want it out he wil take it out, but I really don't want it in the living room, and he is proud of it so I don't want it tucked away where he will never get to see it. Any suggestions how to decorate around a deer head? lol.

3) Any ideas how to merge a 3 bedroom house and a 2 bedroom apartment? I've never done that. When my ex-husband and I moved in together, neither of us had much so it was easy.

4) We are also merging our kids, 1 girl and 2 boys. The girl and boy of HIS are twins, age 10, and my son is age 9 (our boys are the same grade and best buds). Its a 3 bedroom house, so the boys are going to share a room. They already know this and have slept over many times, but we all know that's not the same. There are weeks that my son and I will stay with them for 2 weeks in a row, but he knows he has his own bed to go back to, so I know once we move in it will be different. We do not want them to feel like they are giving up personal space, so how do we do that with the 2 boys? Only thing I can come up with is loft beds for the boys, one on each side of the room, but no other ideas. Any suggestions? Luckily they both also love Star Wars, so we are going to surprise them with star wars themed bedroom to help make the transition seem special, and of course the daughter will also get her room painted so she will not feel left out of the 'special" changes.

I think that's everything. I have NO IDEA how to truly decorate as I've never painted, and have honestly rarely ever hung stuff on the walls due to apartment rules, so I have no idea where to begin.

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« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2011 09:06:43 PM »

How about going to where ever you are going to get paint from with your boyfriend, and both of you pick out the colors that you would love in the house. You might be surprised and go for the same colors or shades that almost alike. If not then lay them out and see if either of you could live with one of the other persons colors.
We own our house but only painted the bedrooms, kitchen, and my craft area. That way if our styles change it's easy to change with it, I recommend that for the living room just in case you end up moving out.

For the deer head, how about art/photographs in rustic frames. Put what you want in the frames but the rustic style will tie into the dear head.

To tie in both your homes, how about group decorative items? White group, gold group, whatever you may have. Furniture wise, you can always do slipcovers for a simple cheap fix, or sell everything to get new. Again that might be bad if things do not work out (not saying they wont! just saying), so I personally would go with slipcovers.

I like the loft bed ideas, they actually make loft beds with tents as the bottom. Then they could have their own area to hide from the other Smiley

Hopefully i helped you out!

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« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2011 09:56:47 AM »

you also may want to try out making moodboards before actually painting anything.
gather magazine pages, pictures from the internet, paint samples, wallpaper samples etc in colors etc that you like. the two of you could discuss them then. Who knows maybe a certain style will pop out?
And otherwise, it's not like you can paint a wall only once ;-)

I say: Enjoy that carte blanche Grin
« Reply #3 on: March 08, 2011 03:44:36 PM »

   This could be a lot of fun.
   Are you travelers at all? You could go for global ecclectic, or French provincial. Asian styles have been popular in a variety of periods so it will usually go with a variety of styles. Do you prefer ornate or more modern. I discovered that I love victorian but I also had a thing for Indian so I made a guest room in my house "British occupied India." You can blend styles that make sense for both of you if you think it through.
    If you both have a sense of humor you could use the deer head as a seasonal decorative item. I've placed wigs, sun glasses and hung Christmas decorations on deer heads before.
    Remember paint can be changed if you don't like it, even adding a different color glaze on top can tone down or brighten up anything that you originally thought was a  disaster. Try to think what colors you like. Are you earth tones, pastels, brights or jewel tones? What about him? You could get an idea of his colors by what colors he likes to wear.
    When I fist started in my house I picked up Interior Decorating for Dummies. it gave me loads of ideas and I had a lot of fun planning out what I wanted to do with each room.

Have fun and let that fast beating heart be for excitement.

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