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« Reply #20 on: December 05, 2005 01:42:04 PM »

Im glad youre feeling better.....my dad is emotionally abusive to my mom, but not to me. I have learned to cope with it. Lately I have learned that under all anger there is just fear, and behind a lot of bullies is just someone who is very, very hurt. That does not mean that you should put up with their shit or even that they are good people, but it is helpful to know that we are all scared, not just you.
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« Reply #21 on: December 06, 2005 10:54:13 AM »

*BIG hugs*
Congratulations on getting out when you did.
And don't worry, you will find someone, even if it takes a little while.
So, until then, stich'n'bitch in the true Crafster way.

And my condolences on losing your cat.
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« Reply #22 on: December 06, 2005 11:49:13 AM »

Hello Beautiful People-
I HAD to reply to this - its not often you have an opportunity to comment on a topic like this in this place.
Thank you for sharing your example of courage and awareness in a bad situation, I am sure you have helped and inspired many other members here to do the same or at least open their eyes to perhaps something in their own lives. This is good. Awareness is the first step to change. And believe it or not- Change is Good. Everything changes.
I have seen/experienced many many bad relationships and their counterparts, it can really do your head in and it is hard to find clarity for yourself during and afterwards.
my advice is to go within yourself and to heal/soothe/love all those parts inside of you after being with someone like that. I had a really hard time forgiving myself after having a sort of 'relapse' into an unforseen shitty situation with a very angry man. I couldn't understand why i fell back into it after maintaining good healthy situations for myself for a few years. but you just gotta hold on to that experience and take it as just that. no reflection on your SELF. But a learning lesson on forgivness, peace, and compassion. That man is f*cked up and unfortunately, for some reason, you had to be witness of that. And you've learned a lot from it right?
You also mention FEAR. Fear stands for- False Evidence Appearing Real.
Think about that one for awhile- it might help you. Everyone can get consumed by fear and their own thoughts in their head. That's when I go and find a different perspective outside of my head. Its not always good to believe what your brain is telling you. BUT It IS good to follow what your gut and heart and soul are telling you.
And lastly- (I'll shut up soon. lol) I find a lot of crafters are loner types - PLEASE don't take this personally!! I relate- i really do. I am shy and introverted and almost hermit like. BUT that's because I don't neccessarily fit in with general society. (you migh be able to see why in the above writing) I am ok with this because i dont totally agree with where society is headed. BUT i digress...
  To Create- Crafts, art, food, music, you name it- the act of creation is the greatest gift you could ever recieve from the Universe. The act of Creation is to make something. out of nothing. To Create is to put dreams into form. To Create is beautiful.
So Create create create--you beautiful crafty folks. It is wonderful!!!!!!
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« Reply #23 on: December 06, 2005 11:53:21 AM »

This is just a hug for you. You really deserve it and you're smart to stay away from that horrible, horrible ass.
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« Reply #24 on: December 06, 2005 12:49:41 PM »

Hello Beautiful People-
I HAD to reply to this - its not often you have an opportunity to comment on a topic like this in this place.
Thank you for sharing your example of courage and awareness in a bad situation, I am sure you have helped and inspired many other members here to do the same or at least open their eyes to perhaps something in their own lives. This is good. Awareness is the first step to change. And believe it or not- Change is Good. Everything changes.
I have seen/experienced many many bad relationships and their counterparts, it can really do your head in and it is hard to find clarity for yourself during and afterwards.
my advice is to go within yourself and to heal/soothe/love all those parts inside of you after being with someone like that. I had a really hard time forgiving myself after having a sort of 'relapse' into an unforseen shitty situation with a very angry man. I couldn't understand why i fell back into it after maintaining good healthy situations for myself for a few years. but you just gotta hold on to that experience and take it as just that. no reflection on your SELF. But a learning lesson on forgivness, peace, and compassion. That man is f*cked up and unfortunately, for some reason, you had to be witness of that. And you've learned a lot from it right?
You also mention FEAR. Fear stands for- False Evidence Appearing Real.
Think about that one for awhile- it might help you. Everyone can get consumed by fear and their own thoughts in their head. That's when I go and find a different perspective outside of my head. Its not always good to believe what your brain is telling you. BUT It IS good to follow what your gut and heart and soul are telling you.
And lastly- (I'll shut up soon. lol) I find a lot of crafters are loner types - PLEASE don't take this personally!! I relate- i really do. I am shy and introverted and almost hermit like. BUT that's because I don't neccessarily fit in with general society. (you migh be able to see why in the above writing) I am ok with this because i dont totally agree with where society is headed. BUT i digress...
  To Create- Crafts, art, food, music, you name it- the act of creation is the greatest gift you could ever recieve from the Universe. The act of Creation is to make something. out of nothing. To Create is to put dreams into form. To Create is beautiful.
So Create create create--you beautiful crafty folks. It is wonderful!!!!!!

Lexis - thank you for writing this paragraph, its very inspiring! Especially the part about what fear stands for. I never thought of it that way.
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