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evaberry
« on: August 30, 2010 09:08:36 AM »

This is a question for all those who have completed or are planning a wedding involving some level of DIY. What was your (approximate) budget/actual cost, and what did that include that was DIY and not DIY? I was reading some wedding blog and it said something like "I decided to make a lot of the stuff myself, so the wedding only cost us like USD 20,000!" Ummm... sounds like quite a lot to me!

We've just bought a new house in the country, and the location is quite pretty and fairly big. So my idea is to invite maybe 80 friends and family round for a housewarming party next summer. And they won't know until they get there that we'll also be having a very brief wedding ceremony in the garden. We have a lot of fairly big garden parties so people shouldn't suspect. The reasons for the surprise are the following:

- People come to weddings with certain expectations. I want people to come just to have fun and spend time with family and friends. I want the focus to be on the party rather than on the couple.

- I don't want people to get all dolled up for a wedding, just to come as they are, to have a nice time.

- I don't want people to bring gifts! We've been together for 13 years already, we truly don't need anything.

The whole idea is to have a nice, relaxed garden party, although still elegant (not cheap-looking!). I don't want to go overboard with anything. It's already outdoors in a nice setting, so there will be no need for huge amounts of flowers or anything. I thought I'd DIY the following:

-invitations
-my dress (probably short and not white); hubby can wear whatever he feels comfortable in.
-decorations: I thought I'd make some fabric bunting, maybe paper-covered fairy lights, lanterns made out of candles and jam jars, and a major theme of fresh apples and apple-tree branches in bowls/vases (because apples will be in season and we will have 20 apple trees)
-flowers: the wedding will probably be in August. What flowers could I plant in my garden now in the fall or next spring that I could then cut for bunches in August? We are in hardiness zone 5b. Peonies are my faves but they will be finished by then.
- the other option is to make a huge load of these and skip fresh flowers altogether (just have those and the apples?)
- quilts: I thought some families with kids might like to have their dinner as a picnic on the grass -- weather permitting -- so I might make some simple quilts from my huge fabric stash (to match the bunting)
- the cake and maybe other desserts
- gifts/favours (not sure what yet, but I can make them over the winter)

Stuff I will try to find cheap:

- tablecloths: I have some vintage pieces of fabric, tablecloths and bedsheets and want to try to find some more. If they are all in the same colour palette (close to white) it might work to have mismatched ones. Otherwise I might have to rent or buy plain white cloths.
- I am thinking about getting mismatched bargain vintage plates and coffee cups from thrift stores for the dinner (I saw a caf that did that and it was quite charming).
- music: I was going to make our own playlist from an ipod. We've got room to make a small dance floor inside the main house or in the "barn" building. I might be able to convince a friend of mine to play the violin as we walk down the "aisle".

Main stuff we will have to pay for:

- officiant's fee
- rings
- renting a tent, tables and chairs
- renting crockery and cutlery, unless I decide to go the vintage route (above)
- photographer (although he's a friend, but I want him to charge properly)
- hair/makeup
- drinks

Major question mark:

- Food. My fianc is an excellent cook and people always love the stuff he makes for our parties. However, I want him to be able to relax and socialise on this occasion, which he rarely has time to do. We could make some things in advance (like I'm planning to make the cake), but can't possibly make everything. I think I read that Molly of orangette had people bring stuff to their wedding dinner and it was great. However, she probably knows people who are all chefs and stuff. People will probably be only too happy to bring food to a garden party but I'm worried that (a) they'll feel a bit cheated by having to bring stuff to a wedding (once they find out), (b) the food may not be stellar and/or go together very well and give a shoddy impression, (c) people do like a good sit-down dinner at a wedding, don't they? So I'm not sure what to do about it. If we have to order catering, it will be a big chunk of the budget. And it's not always great anyway.

So, anyway, thanks if you read this far! What are your thoughts? Did I miss anything?

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blue_lalita
« Reply #1 on: September 01, 2010 01:21:06 PM »

Man, weddings are such a scam! I got married a little over a year ago for less than $8,000.00.  The location was great, so we didn't have to really decorate it, and we had the ceremony and reception in the same place (I called it "dinner theater" style, people just sat at their tables during the ceremony). You'll save a lot of money by having it at your own place! This is what I did DIY:

- Table cloth for the head table (embroidered our initals, added a ribbon trim)
- Center pieces (something involving candles, sand, hurricane jars, mirrors... I actually don't remember exactly how they looked!)
- Music (playlists on an mp3 player)
- Cake trays (we had mini cheesecakes, and I made several trays using plates and glasses from the second hand store)
- Favors. My husband friends helped me decoupage little boxes that we filled with chocolates. They looked great, but were a total pain the you-know-what. Keep in mind that favors are completely optional!
- Invitations. Bought a kit from Michael's.

Stuff we did for cheap:
- Aforementioned mini cheesecakes - they were a delicious, unique, and cheaper than a wedding cake.
- Food. We hired a caterer, which I would most definitely recommend, but saved money by having a lunch reception and buffet-style. We had canapes, little sandwiches, and a beautiful waterfall of fresh fruit.  She also provided all of the tableware.
- Alcohol. We just bought wine and beer at Costco, no hard alcohol.
- Flowers. We didn't use flowers in the centerpieces, and I ordered the (rose) bouquets and boutonnires from Costco.
- Borrowed the rest of the tablecloths from someone who had recently bought them for her son's wedding - score!

I think your ideas sound great! I love the idea of using apples, I think a sweet garden theme with mason jars and lanterns would be really pretty. If I was to re-do my wedding, I would probably do something similar. I wanted to make coffee filter roses for my wedding, but that was big failure. My favorite late summer flowers are dahlias and hydrangeas.
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« Reply #2 on: September 01, 2010 05:31:35 PM »

wedding budget 3,000 usd.

biggest money saver? having a small guest list. we had to be really brutal about not inviting too many people, and with the exception of my two nephews, who are ringbearers, we are not inviting children.

the reception is at a restaurant, so we didnt need to worry about decor. and we are having a no host bar (even though ALL the wedding websites say thats tacky. too bad. im not paying to get my guests drunk!)

I made all the invitations from scratch (you can buy invitiation kits that are really nice though, from michaels/joanns/party supply store/paper store/the internet)

I made my dress- total cost was about 200$

I will be making the bouquets the night before the wedding. this should save a fair bit, since i have four bridesmaids!
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« Reply #3 on: September 04, 2010 12:39:05 PM »

This is a question for all those who have completed or are planning a wedding involving some level of DIY. What was your (approximate) budget/actual cost, and what did that include that was DIY and not DIY? I was reading some wedding blog and it said something like "I decided to make a lot of the stuff myself, so the wedding only cost us like USD 20,000!" Ummm... sounds like quite a lot to me!

We've just bought a new house in the country, and the location is quite pretty and fairly big. So my idea is to invite maybe 80 friends and family round for a housewarming party next summer. And they won't know until they get there that we'll also be having a very brief wedding ceremony in the garden. We have a lot of fairly big garden parties so people shouldn't suspect. The reasons for the surprise are the following:

- People come to weddings with certain expectations. I want people to come just to have fun and spend time with family and friends. I want the focus to be on the party rather than on the couple.

- I don't want people to get all dolled up for a wedding, just to come as they are, to have a nice time.

- I don't want people to bring gifts! We've been together for 13 years already, we truly don't need anything.

The whole idea is to have a nice, relaxed garden party, although still elegant (not cheap-looking!). I don't want to go overboard with anything. It's already outdoors in a nice setting, so there will be no need for huge amounts of flowers or anything. I thought I'd DIY the following:

-invitations
-my dress (probably short and not white); hubby can wear whatever he feels comfortable in.
-decorations: I thought I'd make some fabric bunting, maybe paper-covered fairy lights, lanterns made out of candles and jam jars, and a major theme of fresh apples and apple-tree branches in bowls/vases (because apples will be in season and we will have 20 apple trees)
-flowers: the wedding will probably be in August. What flowers could I plant in my garden now in the fall or next spring that I could then cut for bunches in August? We are in hardiness zone 5b. Peonies are my faves but they will be finished by then.
- the other option is to make a huge load of these and skip fresh flowers altogether (just have those and the apples?)
- quilts: I thought some families with kids might like to have their dinner as a picnic on the grass -- weather permitting -- so I might make some simple quilts from my huge fabric stash (to match the bunting)
- the cake and maybe other desserts
- gifts/favours (not sure what yet, but I can make them over the winter)

Stuff I will try to find cheap:

- tablecloths: I have some vintage pieces of fabric, tablecloths and bedsheets and want to try to find some more. If they are all in the same colour palette (close to white) it might work to have mismatched ones. Otherwise I might have to rent or buy plain white cloths.
- I am thinking about getting mismatched bargain vintage plates and coffee cups from thrift stores for the dinner (I saw a caf that did that and it was quite charming).
- music: I was going to make our own playlist from an ipod. We've got room to make a small dance floor inside the main house or in the "barn" building. I might be able to convince a friend of mine to play the violin as we walk down the "aisle".

Main stuff we will have to pay for:

- officiant's fee
- rings
- renting a tent, tables and chairs
- renting crockery and cutlery, unless I decide to go the vintage route (above)
- photographer (although he's a friend, but I want him to charge properly)
- hair/makeup
- drinks

Major question mark:

- Food. My fianc is an excellent cook and people always love the stuff he makes for our parties. However, I want him to be able to relax and socialise on this occasion, which he rarely has time to do. We could make some things in advance (like I'm planning to make the cake), but can't possibly make everything. I think I read that Molly of orangette had people bring stuff to their wedding dinner and it was great. However, she probably knows people who are all chefs and stuff. People will probably be only too happy to bring food to a garden party but I'm worried that (a) they'll feel a bit cheated by having to bring stuff to a wedding (once they find out), (b) the food may not be stellar and/or go together very well and give a shoddy impression, (c) people do like a good sit-down dinner at a wedding, don't they? So I'm not sure what to do about it. If we have to order catering, it will be a big chunk of the budget. And it's not always great anyway.

So, anyway, thanks if you read this far! What are your thoughts? Did I miss anything?



have you thought as well for center pieces - sourcing vintage teacups and sources from thrift stores etc
and filling them with candle wax to make cute candles Smiley

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« Reply #4 on: September 05, 2010 09:57:01 PM »

I'm helping my bestie plan her wedding on 1100 dollars. Minus her dress and bridesmaid gifts and whatnot. But that's all for food and decor for 80 people. Her venue's free, sounds like yours is too! Which is great. The only thing I know to say at this point is about 'people generally like a sit-down dinner' for weddings. This is probably BS. Sure it's nice, but as casual and relaxed as you seem to want this you'll be fine if you buffet style it or do a pot-luck. I'm LDS (Mormon) and most all my culture's receptions are buffet. It's cheap, easy, and everyone eats what they want, not what you choose for them. It's relaxed but you can still set it up so it looks nice. You sound like you want it simple, so don't tart it up with something so formal and stiff as a sit-down dinner.
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« Reply #5 on: September 06, 2010 05:53:37 AM »

Thanks for all the replies so far! Food for thought...  Smiley
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« Reply #6 on: September 08, 2010 06:22:58 PM »

Our budget is $5,000.
But the quote for catering (150ppl) is $4,000!!!!  
Food is the biggest obstacle for us right now.. we're trying to find a low budget caterer!  The $4G quote included linens, plates/glasses/cutlery, serving and cleanup.  I want to find someone who does just food!  Our goal is to have a "Family Fun Celebration" and we do want there to be good food!  If I can collect some tablecloths, (the venue can provide plates & cutlery) and pay some teenage friends to do the cleanup... maybe we can save money!  If I could bring the food down to $2,000, I think we can meet our $5,000 goal no problem!
But until we can find that perfect caterer... it's all up in the air!
Good Luck on your wedding!  Keep us posted!
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« Reply #7 on: September 13, 2010 04:22:53 PM »

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as casual and relaxed as you seem to want this you'll be fine if you buffet style
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A friend of mine has recently showed me that buffet can really be quite classy. Whereas I always just plunk the food down in a row on a table, she used boxes and books and other random objects to create different layers to put the different platters of food on. Then she covered the layers with a fabric tablecloth (that I think may have began life as a twin bed sheet), put the platters of food on each of the layers and decorated the areas in between with flowers peddles.  The effect was really elegant and it was much better then many of the overpriced catered meals I have had at weddings. I wish I had pictures to show you but here is a similar idea demonstrating the layering technique so you get the idea.
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« Reply #8 on: September 14, 2010 11:51:29 AM »

In my investigations, catered buffets are more expensive, or the same price, as a sit down meal... with plated meals, you know how much everyone is going to eat, but with a buffet, you need extra food because people tend to eat more.  The money you save in servers, you spend in extra food.  Still, many prefer buffet, as the guests can choose what to eat, and I agree, it's can still be classy!

Though, I was playing with the idea of having friends and family help with food.  If that's the case, it was suggested by a wise aunt that I lean towards a cold buffet.  That way, no one will miss the ceremony and reception by being in the kitchen!  But still, for 150 people, that may be pretty silly of me maybe!  I think if I want 150 ppl, I need to hire a caterer.  If I really want to reduce my budget, I should invite less people Sad 

Or.. not serve a full dinner.  A friend of mine had only a meal for family members, and the rest of the guests (about 150) were invited for only the rest of the reception.  I enjoyed myself, and nobody complained.  In today's economy, we need to do what is financially healthy, and people respect that, (those that truly care for us anyways!!!).  But... it's still not what I had envisioned for my celebration.  I'm still hoping to find a lower budget caterer... fingers crossed!
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« Reply #9 on: September 15, 2010 05:37:47 PM »

We did bbq'd pulled pork.  Pork is relatively inexpensive, and used two large electric roasters (like a crock pot on steroids)  to hold the meat.  We then did potato salad, baked beans, etc.  It kept it relatively inexpensive and everybody loved it.  It was also great because I was able to make everything up a day or two in advance and not have to worry about missing any of the fun.
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