Japanese cultural advice

[norsgoebel]

My Japanese neighbor's husband died very unexpectedly today and I would like to make her a sympathy card.  Are there any type of symbols (flowers, animals etc.) that are traditional for this kind of situation?  Are there any that would offend and I should stay away from?  He was my age and even though I didn't know them well I would like to express my condolences.  Thanks

[thequeenjane]

I don't know much, cause nothing like this ever came while I was living in Japan, but I do know that silver is the appropriate colour here.  There is a certain type of knot that is used for different ocasions.  You could try to google it.  I just know about the silver because when I was taking lesson on how to put on my kimono all by myself I was told that I was never to show the silver side of my fan, because that was for funerals and times of mourning only.  Sorry I wasn't much help, but I thought I would pass on at least what I do know.

[selenium]

There are traditional cards with ceremonial knots that are used in the event of a death in the family.  However, they are typically used to give out condolence money, which I am assuming you don't have a lot of.  Instead, I would suggest writing a sincere note.  A floral theme would be appropriate.

[norsgoebel]

Thanks so much for the advice, I'll probably end up doing something generic since I wasn't close to these people really...