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« Reply #40 on: November 19, 2012 12:51:10 AM »

I have sent her quite a few messages with more questions and it did help some but I still felt like the answers were pretty general. I feel like this is something that I should bring up with a moderator after the swap is over. I think I'd be able to better evaluate at that point.
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« Reply #41 on: November 19, 2012 06:18:24 AM »

The 'general answers to specific questions' came up before in another thread. I remember a few people saying they give general answers because they think it's more helpful to be more open to what their partner wants to make instead of being so specific that their partner is really limited. 

Maybe that's what she thinking? Could you PM her and say you WANT specific answers instead of general 'oh, whatever you want is fine' kind of answers.
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« Reply #42 on: June 19, 2013 11:25:05 PM »

I have felt nervous about this being new to swapping. I was inspired by Samsara, another craftester member, and created a page for swap partners on my website: http://paperbeau.weebly.com/craftster-swap-info.html

that way I know I've given as much inspiration to my swap partner as possible, and have definitely said I don't want my top 4 pet craft peeves.

Perhaps you (any reader who is nervous of a badly paired swap) could consider doing something like this - to help guide a partner towards items you would be overjoyed with! I would be very happy to see a similar list for my swap partner.
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« Reply #43 on: June 21, 2013 09:42:56 AM »

Good ideas here!

I would take a mismatch with a grain of salt...I sometimes ask organizers why they paired me with someone and get the most surprising answers Grin...mostly that I was the only one willing to pay international postage! Grin

I love swapping so I have to take the little bad with the mostly GREAT!
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« Reply #44 on: June 21, 2013 06:30:40 PM »

It's seems hard to accommodate for everyone's quirks and such in their questionnaires.  So far, I have only done two swaps, and I find I always leave myself as the leftover so I can pair everyone else up as best as possible - based on their wants/likes/dislikes/craft abilities/allergies/shipping requests, etc.  I can't imagine what it would be like running some of the huge swaps.

On the plus side though - sometimes a "mismatch" is a challenge to learn something new and push personal boundaries.  It can be pretty inspiring.
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« Reply #45 on: July 04, 2016 01:21:18 PM »

This is an old thread, but I've been pondering a mismatching question of my own.

What should you do if you get partnered with someone that's WAY out of your league? As in they do amazing, art gallery quality work and you know there's no way in h--- you could ever hope to make something as good for them? This is not a case of low self esteem, it's a statement of fact. I manage to turn out the occasional neat thing (still proud of the Cheshire Cat string art over here!), but for the most part I'm a middling crafter. I have fun and generally manage to meet the swap requirements, sometimes with a little embarrassment when I behold the amazing things in the gallery. I try really hard. No one's ever said "hey, you suck!" which is very kind of everyone.

Point and question being this: if you get partnered with someone who deserves better than you can do, should you politely request to be paired with someone else? The last thing I want is to disappoint a partner! Or is this the sort of thing that you should maybe put in with your sign-up questionnaire when you send it to the organizer? "Please don't put me with the pros! I'm not worthy!"

Sure, being on the receiving end of a match like that is wonderful from a [selfish] collecting handmade stuff point of view. It doesn't seem fair to my partner, and that doesn't sit right with me.
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« Reply #46 on: July 04, 2016 03:32:07 PM »

I think the pros know they are pros and if they didn't want to swap with the regular Joes they just wouldn't. If you do the best you can I can't imagine anyone being upset.

But I know I've seen a few craftster who I'd be pretty intimidated to be partnered with. I think just a nudge at the organizer would be good enough.
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« Reply #47 on: July 04, 2016 04:35:59 PM »

I think anyone who swaps in general swaps, not like IYP, knows that they might be partnered either with someone with a lot more experience and talent or a lot less. It can be intimidating or disappointing if you let it.

Personally, I am thrilled to be partnered with someone whom I have admired and have no way of receiving anything from her/him without swapping. If I am partnered with a newbie or someone that feels like they are not quite experienced enough, to me, as long as they are learning a new skill or improving a skill, and doing their best, I will know it.  Besides that, I think fresh ideas and unique techniques come about from a lot of these swaps.

Most organizers are really pretty good at partnering and allowing for special requests.  I also think they know that a challenge can up your own game.   I wouldn't worry about it...no matter the level of talent and skill, everyone gets a little queasy in the stomach with swap anxiety...I think it is because we all want to do our best and part of being the best is to take risks and getting out of your own comfort zone.  My motto is to have fun and enjoy the process.

Did you ever consider that maybe a more experienced partner loves to do what he or she does and is just happy to make something for you?
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« Reply #48 on: July 05, 2016 06:12:44 AM »


Did you ever consider that maybe a more experienced partner loves to do what he or she does and is just happy to make something for you?

That's a very good point. It's why we craft in the first place, right? Because we love doing it. Swapping is simply a good excuse. I guess I'm generally hard on myself about everything, and swapping is one of the special points where I really beat myself up. I always want my partner to open the box and go "holy crow, that's awesome!" Particularly when I know that's what i'm going to say on the other end.

I suppose I could use being paired with someone way over my level as an invitation to ask them for tips. "Hey, how would you do this?"
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« Reply #49 on: July 09, 2016 09:54:54 PM »

Did you ever consider that maybe a more experienced partner loves to do what he or she does and is just happy to make something for you?

That is how I try to think of it. They obviously know they are at professional level skill and on a website like this one not everyone has the same skill level. Honestly I have been disappointed a few times by what I have received but then quickly remember that it might be someone's best work. I consider myself to be medium skill. Not level 1 but not level 5. Somewhere in the middle.


I guess I'm generally hard on myself about everything, and swapping is one of the special points where I really beat myself up. I always want my partner to open the box and go "holy crow, that's awesome!" Particularly when I know that's what i'm going to say on the other end. 

I'm like that too! I'm such a perfectionist. Luckily with the very few swaps I've done so far my partners have been amazed with what I've sent. (At least I hope they're being honest) I was very intimidated by the members here when I first joined in 2013. I didn't join larger swaps until this year!

I was partnered with someone totally different from me for an upcoming swap but hopefully we can find something in common we can work with.
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