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« on: November 19, 2008 06:18:59 AM »

OK this is mainly to get some feed back here. I have a neighbor that had a baby a few months back. Well we had just moved here and I could not find my sewing maching at first to get on a gift right away. SO it was a bit late, however I came up with a big hooded towel. ( I didn't get good pictures of unfortunately) and since the towel had a monkey and a lion on it I also made a stuffed monkey by hand.
NOW, I understand that not every one thinks wonky stuffies are cute buuuuutt. I took this over to her home yesterday, she looked at it and said....."ummm Thaaaanks" and then just left me standing out in the cold.
Do you think that the monkey was so ugly that she was offended that I would give her such a thing? Some feedback would be much appreciated. I am not sure how to handle this now.


He was made from a felted wool sweater and old corduroy. It was all hand sewing and embroidered. I know the eyes look a bit silly but I didn't want to put button eyes on since it was for a baby.
It is sitting next to the towel that I made as well.
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« Reply #1 on: November 19, 2008 06:24:44 AM »

I think he looks great!  I love the details on his toes and his face, very cute.  Maybe your neighbor is just crazy? Tongue  Regardless of what she thinks, isn't it the baby's decision anyway, and if I remember correctly, they like to drool on everything equally.  Smiley  But I do like this little guy, good job!
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« Reply #2 on: November 19, 2008 07:01:00 AM »

 Maybe you just caught her at an off time, new mothers go through a lot of changes and ups and downs.  Maybe call and see when it would be convient to visit later on.  You did a wonderful job on the monkey, I love it and I'm sure the new baby will too.  Try not to be upset, I'm sure she was just having a bad day. 
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« Reply #3 on: November 19, 2008 07:27:58 AM »

Your Monkey is excellent!  No Doubt about that.  With regards to the mum, I agree.. you may have caught her off guard with such a thoughtful gift.   I thought the same thing as another poster.. Its the baby's present anyways and I bet that baby will love it... They love to drool on things and have something to hold when they are in the stroller or on the floor so never mind Mum's response..
  When I had my first kid I would take him for walks and stuff and I never anticipated all the interacting I would have to do with complete strangers!  People commenting on "what a cute baby!" or giving me unwanted advice! ha ha .. I learned quick to nod my head at the advice and stop saying "I know" at the cute baby comments and instead trained myself to say Thank you! ha ha!
  Well done on your lovely monkey!  Grin
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« Reply #4 on: November 19, 2008 07:59:34 AM »

i love him!  especially his feet!  i can't imagine a little one not falling in love with him!
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« Reply #5 on: November 19, 2008 08:14:45 AM »

Thanks ladies for the kind words. I was not really upset with Mom as much as I was worried that my monkey was a silly gift to give.
I too remember those first months of motherhood and they can be draining beyond draining. Just wanted to make sure that it didn't look like I just picked it up at a recycle center somewhere. Smiley
Thank you again for the kudos.
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« Reply #6 on: November 19, 2008 08:31:57 AM »

i love it! its feet are so cute! I would love it as a gift, and I dont even have a baby.
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« Reply #7 on: November 19, 2008 10:23:58 AM »

The monkey is cute. It might not be everyones taste.
I suspect the problem is more about her than you or the gift. Maybe what she needs most is some friendship.
The neighborhood I live in now. People don't do things like you did. She might not be accustomed to a nice person like you. Or maybe there is some nastiness in her life that she is pre-occupied with.
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« Reply #8 on: November 19, 2008 11:32:58 AM »

That's the point I was going to bring up. If I did that in my neighborhood I would be committed to the local state hospital. Where I used to live though....it was expected almost that you do things like that for your neighbors.

I am totally in love with your monkey!!!!!
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« Reply #9 on: November 19, 2008 11:51:04 AM »

I think the monkey is adorable, it looks rather old-fashioned (in a good way). I agree with everyone here about the mother's reaction - if she hadn't liked the monkey she could have talked about the towel, but it sounds like she was preoccupied or surprised. I must say, if I received a toy like that, I'd probably put it up on a shelf for baby to look at, not chew on!
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« Reply #10 on: November 19, 2008 11:59:20 AM »

I agree with Sactownsue and Angry Angel It could just be she's not used to it. I know my immediate neighbors and have even lent them money but giving a sweet gift like that would be weird if I just gave it to someone down the street.

I think he's great, He's baby safe and he's a MONKEY! I mean cummon what kid doesn't need a monkey?
I'm not really a fan of all the embriodery but that's just my personal taste so please don't be offended by it. And if you had brought him to me I would have oohed and aahed over him becasue I know the time handmade things take to make. Smiley So it could be a combination of not knowing/respecting the handmade quality of your gift and your gift being a gift. lol
He's cute so there!
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« Reply #11 on: November 19, 2008 12:56:47 PM »

My little boy is 8 months old, and he would LOVE a little monkey like that (and mommy would love hooded towels!)  I can just imagine him swinging the monkey around and chewing on his feet.  Plus, the different materials of the monkey are AWESOME for little kids to explore texture. They sell "textured" stuffed animals in the baby section for $20+  dollars.  As far as the mom and her cold shoulder goes, I'm betting she 1. was not in a position to receive guests 2. It's something that she isn't used to in her neighbor hood. 3. She doesn't know you well enough (new moms are on the defense.) 4. She could be one of those mom's that only wants brand new name brand things for their kid (what a shame.)     

Next monkey you make, send it to my Logan.  Grin
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« Reply #12 on: November 19, 2008 02:40:29 PM »

I was thinking about this some more and it occurred to me about the germy, breakable issue. Some people are more paranoid than others about these things. She can put it on a high shelf.
Also the news... the economy. She could be thinking... One more person I have to buy a Christmas gift for now... etc. Can't even pay the mortgage or do everything I need to for the baby. If this might be true, even if it's not, and you want to be friends with her... How about inviting her over to make cookies or candy, Craftster recipes?, and take turns watching the baby, etc.?
I think the bottom line is we are all saying it's not the monkey...
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« Reply #13 on: November 19, 2008 02:59:51 PM »

You guys keep making me smile. Thank you so much for such an overwhelming response to this. Thinking on it now, I really love to give gifts to folks even randomly sometimes and it is always pondersom to me to see all the responses that people can give you.
You all are probably right about her just not expecting something from us. We have just moved into this neighborhood about four months ago but haven't really even met any of our neighbors. I am still really happy that I did it and would do it again in a heart beat. Handing making something and adding lots of good warm thoughts to it for someone just makes you feel good inside.
I got my pay off by giving it to her. Just wanted to make sure that it wasn't a "white elephant" baby gift.  Grin
All of you have more than assured me that wasn't the case.
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« Reply #14 on: November 19, 2008 04:54:34 PM »

Barring some sort of monkey or stuffed animal related phobia, there is no way on earth this lady's reaction had anything to do with the quality of your gift. It's absolutely lovely, and there's not a single wonky detail, no matter what you say. : )

If I had to guess, I'd say she's probably really hormonal from childbirth and sleep deprived from long nights with her infant. You caught her off guard and she reacted strangely - I would chalk it up to your neighbor having a bad day or being in a weird place mentally. It's sad when someone is dismissive of something you worked hard on. The last time it happened to me, I cried a lot. But just remember that her careless reaction doesn't diminish the kind thing you did for her and her child. Your gift was lovely, as was the thought behind it.

Maybe she'll realize her error and come apologize to you. I hope she does.
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« Reply #15 on: November 19, 2008 07:02:06 PM »

I'm going to chime in - he is a wonderful monkey! I love the brown fabric and all of the embroidery!
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« Reply #16 on: November 19, 2008 09:40:52 PM »

SUCH a lovely gift and adorable monkey if you ask me! i agree that any time someone has an odd reaction, it usually has a lot to do with what's going on for them, and not much to do with you.

and you know, babies have a way of figuring out that the handmade toys that have the love in them.  Wink
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« Reply #17 on: November 20, 2008 04:30:41 AM »

Well I like him Smiley

Some people just don't like hand crafted things, they just don't like the look of them - I have friends that think my craftings are hideous because they prefer modern, sleek things and crafts just don't fit into that aesthetic. I wouldn't be offended, its all just personal opinion anyways.

Saying that, I'm pretty sure she was probably zonked out and you surprised her with your generosity!

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« Reply #18 on: November 20, 2008 06:34:02 AM »

Aw, I LOVE that monkey!!  I think it was clever to use corduroy, the texture is so nice.
 
And I'm sure the towel will get load of use-- you can never have too many!


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« Reply #19 on: November 20, 2008 06:46:43 AM »

I LOOOOVE your lil' monkey! I think he is wonderful! I am sorry you didn't get a good reaction. I know from my own experience that when I put so much hard work in something and then get a less than appreciative response it makes me doubt my efforts! I'm so sorry that happened to you... that stinks. But just so you do know for sure... he is absolutely adorable! I would snatch him up in a heartbeat!
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« Reply #20 on: November 20, 2008 07:10:02 AM »

Barring some sort of monkey or stuffed animal related phobia, there is no way on earth this lady's reaction had anything to do with the quality of your gift. It's absolutely lovely, and there's not a single wonky detail, no matter what you say. : )


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« Reply #21 on: November 20, 2008 10:17:34 AM »

Yeah it could be that she's zonked, or it could be that she's kind of a bitch (come on, someone had to say it).  However, that is the cutest thing I have ever seen and that baby is going to looooove it.  I still have handmade things I was given as a kid, they're more special.

I don't know if this sounds kind of trite, but the fact that you did this shows what a kind-hearted person you are.  It hurts when you try to be nice and someone doesn't reciprocate, but in a lot of ways her reaction isn't important.  You've done something good and kind.  Be proud of yourself, its rare that someone is willing to put themselves out there and be willing to be kind.  Its much easier to be ignore the world or be unkind.

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« Reply #22 on: November 20, 2008 12:28:58 PM »

OMG that monkey is so darn cute! You are the most thoughtfull neighbor ever!
And about the momma: its probably just the lack of sleep and the amazingness of your gift blew her brains up and she couldnt respond decently  Roll Eyes It happens when super cool craftsters move into the neighborhood.
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« Reply #23 on: November 20, 2008 07:14:57 PM »

He is so sweet! I love that you used corduroy -- he looks that much more cuddly.

I don't know if this sounds kind of trite, but the fact that you did this shows what a kind-hearted person you are.  It hurts when you try to be nice and someone doesn't reciprocate, but in a lot of ways her reaction isn't important.  You've done something good and kind.  Be proud of yourself, its rare that someone is willing to put themselves out there and be willing to be kind.  Its much easier to be ignore the world or be unkind.

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I think this is right on! It's unfortunate that you got a lukewarm reaction from her, but don't let that slow you down in your crafty good deeds. Smiley
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« Reply #24 on: November 20, 2008 07:38:12 PM »

Thank you so much guys. I really harbor no resentment or ill feelings towards the new mom at all. It is really hard being a new mom and not everyone is open to new relationships.
Could be that she was afraid that I would turn into one of "those neighbors", the ones that show up all of the time and you cant shake them. Smiley There are a million reasons. So no biggie.
I just wanted to make sure that the monkey wasn't insanely ugly. I can have some pretty extreme taste at time and also tend to have a really stupid sense of humor.
All of you have more than assured me that my monkey is cool. Smiley hee hee
Thanks to all of you.


I think this is right on! It's unfortunate that you got a lukewarm reaction from her, but don't let that slow you down in your crafty good deeds. Smiley
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No worries grenouille78, giving folks things is the BEST thing in life for me. Making people things and giving gifts is my drug of choice. Thanks for the encouragement though.

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« Reply #25 on: November 20, 2008 08:24:33 PM »

that is one awesome little monkey. he's sooo cute!
 
Had you met this woman many times before stopping by with these gifts?
 If some person i didn't know  came to my place and gave me stuff i'd be a little weirded out.  I never feel safe where i live though so it;s a trust thing.
 I would love to live in a neighborhood where neighbors are actually neighborly and trustworthy... and stop by with random gifts lol!
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« Reply #26 on: December 02, 2008 12:56:15 PM »

I absolutely love this!  I have an 8 month old and I would have been unable to contain my excitement if someone gave me this!  It's a treasure! I just absolutely love it!
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