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« on: October 21, 2008 08:54:21 AM »

What kind of traditions does everyone have for Thanksgiving...Is your family different or the same as your in-laws? My family is all about hanging out and talking, my in-laws are way more into the preparation of the foods, then eating...quickly, then napping. I can't really say which I like more because I look forward to doing both and it is nice that it's predictable.
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« Reply #1 on: October 21, 2008 06:12:10 PM »

I was just thinking about this the other day!

My side of the family is very social - we spend pretty much the entire day together eating, visiting, laughing. It's also a tradition for all the adult women (18+, although exceptions can be made) to get together the day after to go shopping - we usually meet up early (say, 6:30-ish) for breakfast, then head out to the mall and the stores. Most of us go just for the social aspect and for the Holiday atmosphere...rarely do any of us do serious shopping. It's also tradition - at least that I picked up from my mom - to decorate the house for Christmas either on Thanksgiving night or the day after. There is a great sense of family and of giving thanks at our gatherings.

My in-laws are quite a different breed than my side of the family (wonderful in their own right, don't get me wrong!) and are less social and more "Meh, we get to eat turkey and stuff ourselves silly..." They do give thanks before eating, which only happens at Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner. After dinner, we usually sit around watching tv and that's about it. It really isn't much different than an other time we go over there for dinner (we see them often as they live about 10 minutes away)...sometimes we'll get the occasional stories from my mother in law's memories of Ukrainian celebrations, but that's rare...

As for which I prefer, I'd have to say my side of the family - and not because I'm biased! I just love the cozy and warm fuzzy feelings I get and it really gets me going for the Holiday season.
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« Reply #2 on: October 22, 2008 05:56:00 AM »

It's nice to hear of someone else who has opposites when it comes to family & in-laws. There's certainly nothing wrong with either tradition, though I agree that my own family traditions excite me a bit more.
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« Reply #3 on: October 22, 2008 06:20:29 AM »

I have learned to loathe Thanksgiving because everyone (self included) seems to have Norman Rockwell visions of how it's supposed to be: enormous turkey, glistening crystal and silver, a dozen people happily gorging themselves around a table with the extension leaves slipped in . . .  It's never like that, and the times I've tried to make it like that, I've worked so hard and been so exhausted I didn't actually want to eat anything.

My favorite Thanksgiving tradition as a child is that we all went to the movies after our meal.  When there weren't any decent movies out, we'd go for a walk along the pier (we lived by the coast).  Relaxing family time.  I always felt close to my parents on those walks.

Now that I'm married, my favorite traditions revolve around making the special holiday recipes we only eat at Thanksgiving and Christmas.  I always make cranberry sauce from scratch; I find watching the cranberries burst and thicken into a gel amazingly therapeutic.  We have a special mashed potato recipe I only make for the holidays, and a stuffing recipe that always requires hunting down Portuguese sausage (part of the tradition is trying to find a place that sells it!).

I find the actual dinner part--sitting with my in-laws and eating--terribly boring and not worth all the effort put into cooking and the following clean up.  That's why I pretty much hate Thanksgiving now: it is enforced family time with people I can't stand, and we're all supposed to one happy, close-knit family.  It feels like such a lie. The worst family arguments I've had have occured at Thanksgiving. 

Last year we had just moved from coast to coast two weeks before Thanksgiving and we didn't have our kitchen unpacked, so we went to a restaurant.  I think we'll go again this year, and I will just make my happy cranberry sauce at home the next day--because that is what truly makes me happy! 

Then again, maybe my problem is that I don't have a table with extension leaves to slip in . . .
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« Reply #4 on: October 22, 2008 06:44:10 AM »

I guess part of what makes my family thanksgivings (on both sides) work is that we don't really see each other that much and when we do it's more of a time to relax. Each side relaxes differently (Chatting, Card Games vs. Napping, Football), but that is the real focus. Also, I am lucky to have a family that so far has had no major fall outs and the big struggle now is the availability of extended family.
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« Reply #5 on: October 22, 2008 06:46:58 AM »

I guess part of what makes my family thanksgivings (on both sides) work is that we don't really see each other that much and when we do it's more of a time to relax. Each side relaxes differently (Chatting, Card Games vs. Napping, Football), but that is the real focus. Also, I am lucky to have a family that so far has had no major fall outs and the big struggle now is the availability of extended family.

Oh, and it should be mentioned that when I am talking about family get togethers I am talking about my parents, siblings, uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents...so it's a pretty big group, not just siblings & parents.  I guess that could make a difference.
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« Reply #6 on: October 22, 2008 07:54:12 AM »

Yep, having a big family that gets along is a nice ingredient to have for holidays.  My MIL still thinks my husband's first wife was the bees knees and has never accepted their divorce (15 years ago . . . get over it!).  Soooo holidays with in-laws = not fun. :-(  Definitely not relaxing.

Wish it were better, but it hasn't gotten any better in 11 years. I really dread holidays because I don't have a happy, functional extended family and that's what's supposed to be at the heart of holidays. Right?  If you don't have that, you're screwed, apparently. 

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« Reply #7 on: October 22, 2008 09:59:29 AM »

These aren't really "family traditions," but in my family we make up a menu a couple of weeks before Thanksgiving and divide up the work.  Certain people do certain things year after year (mom makes the dressing).. but it keeps us from being like that episode of Friends where Monica made three different recipes of mash potatoes.  The meal itself is very casual.

After the meal we usually go for a walk together.. there are lots of trails near where we live.



Normally, I love family holidays.. but I'm not really looking forward to Thanksgiving (or Christmas) this year eather.  This is our first big family occasion since the death of my sister's son.
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« Reply #8 on: October 22, 2008 10:13:26 AM »

My family is small, we would have a meal and hang out and chat. My favorite tradition was "Friends' Thanksgiving". Held either Thanksgiving evening or the next day, it was a second Thanksgiving meal with friends. We'd go all out and cook (especially foods our families didn't like), and lots of wine. Any friends who wanted could come, and anyone who didn't have a big family feast for whatever reason. It was always so much fun. My BFF and I had a running competing claim for making the world's best cranberry sauce (really, mine is the best) and much wine was consumed. I really miss that even more than my family feast! Now I live far away, and it's just my SO and I, so I cook a feast for two, and we watch a movie.

Does anyone have good recipes or crafts to share?

World's best cranberry sauce:

1 bag of cranberries
1 small bottle of pure maple syrup
juice and grated peel of 1 orange
a tsp or so of cardamom
a dash of cinnamon
fresh grated ginger

remove stones and soft berries
put all ingredients in a saucepan and cook until all berries have popped (fun!) and sauce is thickened.

eat it up!  Great on turkey, turkey sanwiches, cheese sandwiches, etc.
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« Reply #9 on: October 22, 2008 10:52:36 AM »

My husband and I used to go to his parents house.  (I don't see my own family anymore, and that's for the best. Smiley )  We had a few of the same "Norman Rockwell" expectation problems as well.  Fourtunatly we get along reasonably well, the problem is just my MIL trying to make everything exactly perfect.  I lover her, she's a nice lady, but she is the most scatterbrained, inefficient person in the known universe, and should never be allowed to plan anything ever.  The only reason everyone went there was because her house was centrally located, and our apartment couldn't comfortably hold more than 5 people at a time.  So the tradition is usually talking mom out of doing something goofy like painting the kitchen the day before.

Now we live 2000 miles away in Illinois, and we're going to Grandma's house.  I'm not sure what they usually do, this will be my first time spending Thanksgiving with them.  I'm going to bring the super easy sweet potatoes I make every year, they've always been a big hit.  I'll share my recipe if anyone is interested:

4 med sweet potatoes
1tbsp butter
1/4 cup milk
3/8 cup brown sugar
1tsp cinnamon

Peel and cube sweet potatoes
Boil until soft
Remove from water, place in a bowl and mash.  I don't bother trying to get them perfectly smooth.
mix in all remaining ingredients, sprinkle cinnamon on top.
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