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« on: June 24, 2008 01:38:52 PM »

so, i have epic drama with my mother.  Undecided so much drama, abandonment from my perspective, massive dissapointment from hers. and between being born and being around 12, i never owned a single peice of not-sewn-by-her clothing. when she tried to teach me, any time i messed up a bit, she'd tell me to go away and she'd take over and fix it (completely ignoring that mistakes are the way you learn) so i associate sewing with her and all the angst we have.

the problem is, about 6 years ago, she became clinically depressed and 3 years ago she started losing her sight. so she's got about 85 packing boxes of fabric, all the supplies, and no will to use them. and i'm such a thrifty person the idea of tossing the fabric was killing me. so i decided to try again.

i used a pattern she drafted for me in 9th grade. i also tried to use her advice, but trying to talk her into coming into the sewing room was about as useful as trying to talk a rock into walking into the sewing room. i didn't know to prewash the fabric, i didn't know to turn it inside out before cutting, i didn't know how to thread a double needle, i didn't know how to do the collar. but in the end, i did it. and i'm gonna keep on doing it, and make myself a whole wardrobe.

and so... orange is the colour of pain, and this was emotionally painful, but i'm working through it, hence the title catharsis...

i'm also really happy because the second time i used the pattern i had to trim off 4 inches from the stomach. i've gotten thinner since high school!

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« Reply #1 on: June 24, 2008 01:56:16 PM »

We all heal from pain in weird ways.  You did a great job on that shirt, keep it up and I will look forward to seeing this new wardrobe!
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« Reply #2 on: June 24, 2008 01:56:51 PM »

Great job! In ALL aspects, great job!

« Reply #3 on: June 24, 2008 02:04:43 PM »

Sorry to hear about all the problems, but hopefully this is a good step on the way to sorting things out  Smiley I love the shirt! I hope you'll post other things you make too! Good luck!

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« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2008 02:29:01 PM »

can't wait to see more of your creations

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« Reply #5 on: June 24, 2008 02:46:32 PM »

as long as you craft, you will never be bored.  There is such healing in creating, as you can lose yourself to it.  Keep up the good work, and also give your mom kudos for at least giving you the crafting gene, whether she knew how to encourage your tender tries or not.  She must be in a lot of emotional pain - perhaps one day this might help to bring you closer together.  Good luck with the new you!
« Reply #6 on: June 24, 2008 03:24:01 PM »

My mom started me sewing when I was 5 or six years old.  My best friend at the time Penny and I made night gowns.  I would sew a step and she sewed a step.  However, I did not keep the interest till later in life.  I have problems reading patterns so I keep them simple.  But, every now and then I step out of the comfort zone.

My grandmother taught me to crochet.  I will never forget how she made me cry and ripped out my stitches and made me start all over.  However I love her and remember her everytime I pick up my needles.  To this day I crochet with her needles.  Before she past over she gave me all her yarn and needles.  I crochet over 50+ years of yarn into granny squares and made a afghan for her.  This being her last Christmas and my biggest project ever.  I have this afghan to this day.

So, with that said.  You do learn from mistakes and you try and remember all the Haas feelings.  But, later you realize those feelings will go away.  Everyone learns differently. 

You have one up on me.  I have to have a pattern.  You are designing your own from the beginning.  Kudos to U!!! Grin

I love the orange material.  It is something I would more then likely buy. Cool

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« Reply #7 on: June 24, 2008 03:49:21 PM »

i think this is a great post, and you're very brave for following through with everything.  you did an awesome job on the shirt, and i think that although orange may be the color of pain, this shade can definitely brighten someone's day (especially when wearing it).

crafting can definitely get frustrating, but materials are patient and will wait for you to figure them out (one way or another).  craftster is such an amazing website and people here are so supportive that if you ever have questions, someone will most likely have the answer.  in short, keep crafting and you'll find yourself happier with learning and creating (thus passing on the happiness to others!)  Smiley  have a great day, and again, good job and good luck with the future!


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« Reply #8 on: June 24, 2008 04:04:16 PM »

you did a really great job on that! the neckline looks flawless, and i love that color. regardless of connotation.

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« Reply #9 on: June 25, 2008 10:36:36 AM »

I love sewing because you take something, completely chop it up and stab it with needles, and from the violent chaos comes something beautiful! It's GREAT therapy!

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