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nataleeza
« on: February 15, 2008 01:27:21 AM »

Anyone else facing a very long engagement?  I cannot get married within the next 32 months (more like 36 in reality), and I'm not sure if there are any things I can really decide before the 12 month mark (the furtherest out most checklists go).

Anyone else dealing with (or dealt with) the same thing?  I'm just feeling a little left out as all the people I know have chosen a 10 month engagement at the extreme longest.
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« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2008 02:12:35 AM »

Sorry, that's totally what I meant.  I mean, I can hardly start making centrepieces to store until 2011...  Is there anyone who's crafted anything this far in advance?
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« Reply #2 on: February 17, 2008 10:15:10 AM »

Do you have a theme, colors, location or anything like that picked out or reserved yet?  Seems like that's when the majority of my crafting commenced -- once I had the ceremony and reception sites booked, that is.
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« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2008 10:15:23 AM »

PS - Congrats!
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« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2008 02:18:45 PM »

you might be doing yourself a favor if you waited to do things until it got closer... our engagement period is about 22 months and the things i did at the beginning, i wish i hadn't.  now i'm stuck with stuff that either doesn't go or stuck doing things twice...  wait till you book the halls to do things, otherwise they may not fit with the "feel" of the place.

that said, you can definitely start looking for vendors you'd like to hire, or toying with invitation designs... or start building a website... or accumulating things you KNOW you'll have no matter what (i.e. my FI was going to wear his family's tartan no matter where we had the wedding, so we were able to order that right away)...

HTH!  congrats!!
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you might be doing yourself a favor if you waited to do things until it got closer... our engagement period is about 22 months and the things i did at the beginning, i wish i hadn't.  now i'm stuck with stuff that either doesn't go or stuck doing things twice...  wait till you book the halls to do things, otherwise they may not fit with the "feel" of the place.

that said, you can definitely start looking for vendors you'd like to hire, or toying with invitation designs... or start building a website... or accumulating things you KNOW you'll have no matter what (i.e. my FI was going to wear his family's tartan no matter where we had the wedding, so we were able to order that right away)...

Great advice.  If you started doing stuff now, another challenge would be where'd you store all the finished products and making sure they stay in good condition. 

You have the luxury of time to do lots of research, pull ideas into a notebook, budget, explore lots of concepts and options, etc.  Good luck!
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« Reply #6 on: February 17, 2008 08:12:15 PM »

Lawsamercy--I'd recommend getting your guestlist together. It's been not only the most time-consuming, but also the most contentious item yet!! Then you will know in advance how many people you'll need to find a space for and feed.
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« Reply #7 on: February 18, 2008 06:35:42 AM »

I think the best advice (as has already been mentioned) is to just start pulling ideas together.  One of the biggest mistakes we made planning our wedding was buying/making things early and then changing our minds so we either had to incorporate things that we didn't really like or change things costing lots of money. 
So start comparing ideas, budgeting, and even making prototypes to learn new skills (or see if crafting things is even the way to go). 
Good luck, and remember if it's not fun it's not worth the fuss. 
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« Reply #8 on: February 18, 2008 06:36:43 AM »

Ooh... start a box or a notebook (or both!) with all of your ideas, magazine clippings, etc.

kjlutz, I love your outlook/motto!!
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« Reply #9 on: February 18, 2008 03:01:58 PM »

I'm not getting married until 2011 either. I haven't been crafting (eventough I want to =D) because it is too soon.

But, it has given me TONS of time to figure out the wedding of my dreams. When you have as much time as you and I do, there is no pressure to figure out colors, style, etc.

Don't worry, you will have plenty of time to craft. Right now, just relax and enjoy the research, becuase when you get to 6 months before the wedding you will be running around so much that you'll wish then you had more time. XD
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« Reply #10 on: February 18, 2008 07:32:17 PM »

Right now, just relax and enjoy the research, becuase when you get to 6 months before the wedding you will be running around so much that you'll wish then you had more time. XD

Truth!
By the time our wedding rolls around in May, we'll have been engaged for 2 years. While I liked the relaxed browsing of the early days/months, I was really anxious and it seemed like our day would never come.
Now that we're about 3 months out, wedding stuff has consumed my life.  Tongue
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« Reply #11 on: February 18, 2008 09:56:29 PM »

I just got engaged!  There were lots of horses involved in the proposal....

Any-hoo We're waiting until I get my degree so we have a general time set for spring of 2010 and I know I'll probably chance my mind multiple times about theme, crafts, location, but what I have been doing is making inspiration collage pages and keeping them in a binder along with a rough guest list and a list of things I would like to eventually craft for our wedding.
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« Reply #12 on: February 19, 2008 12:26:48 AM »

Thanks everyone!  I knew I'd come to the right place.  Cheesy  And congratulations to all of you who are engaged also!
I've been with my partner for 9 years already, so I am getting far too excited that the weddings is actually nearly in sight!  I'm planning to keep browsing and pulling ideas together until I'm sick of it, and will hopefully feel a bit more relaxed for a few months!

I hadn't thought of pulling ideas into a note book, I'd had a look at wedding planners, and they focus more on getting quotes and booking things etc (which is obviously out of the question at the moment).

I bought a scrapbook today, and I've been printing out pictures and pasting them in.  It looks great!  Here's the only one I've finished yet:


I've been holding onto the main green dress picture for about 2 years, as I think it's absolutely beautiful!  The other two I found in a wedding magazine.  It should all be shades of olive, but the colours are a bit wacky...

I feel so much better now because I really can use the extra time to look over heaps of pictures, and pick out exactly what I'd like to craft when the time comes. 

I'd recommend getting your guestlist together. It's been not only the most time-consuming, but also the most contentious item yet!!
Excellent point!  I can't even guess at how many guests we will have at this point.  As small as we can manage, but I have a large, close family.

the things i did at the beginning, i wish i hadn't.  now i'm stuck with stuff that either doesn't go or stuck doing things twice...
That was my thought, but thanks for supporting that.  I'm just dying to break out the paper and glitter!

Right now, just relax and enjoy the research
I totally will!  I'm a researcher by trade, so if there's one thing I can do, it's conduct thorough information gathering Wink
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« Reply #13 on: February 19, 2008 06:01:04 AM »

Yeah, most wedding planners that are for sale focus on numbers, timelines of the big day, schedules, etc.  Your scrapbook is the FUN planner!  I saved lots and lots of photos for inspiration along the way.  It really does help organize your thoughts and you can actually see the wedding coming together right before your eyes.

Wowww, the green dress looks really pretty!  Are you going to buy your dress, make it or have it made?
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« Reply #14 on: February 19, 2008 07:39:55 PM »

Wowww, the green dress looks really pretty!  Are you going to buy your dress, make it or have it made?

No idea!  I'm going to try some on, and if I find the perfect one (in my price range), then so be it.  But my fiance's mum was a seamstress, so she might offer to help me make one.  As long as it makes me look beautiful, I'm open Wink

I'm not even sure what colour I'd like.  That green really speaks to me, but I think the lad wants me in white.  I'm that case I'll be wearing champagne, white looks terrible one me!  But I guess I still have at least 18 months to think about that.

But I've gotten into this whole planning thing, I've started planning my planner!  I'm in the middle of creating a checklist (none of the readymade ones are quite right for me, we will be having a small intimate gathering, with a minimum of stress and strain), and a budget sheet etc, so I can print it out a year before the date, and start working through the decisions.  I found the checklist on theknot.com to be a good place to start.
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« Reply #15 on: February 20, 2008 05:36:59 AM »


I'm not even sure what colour I'd like.  That green really speaks to me, but I think the lad wants me in white.  I'm that case I'll be wearing champagne, white looks terrible one me!  But I guess I still have at least 18 months to think about that.


Pick a colour you love and love amazing in.  I wore a dark red dress with a bit of white at the top, a white veil, and had snowflakes silkscreened on the bottom of my dress.  It was great, I've worn my dress since, and my one aunt didn't even realize I wasn't wearing white until half an hour into the ceremony.  The point of my story is wear what you are comfortable in, because nothing says you have to follow Queen Victoria's lead.   
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« Reply #16 on: February 20, 2008 09:39:27 AM »

Congrats!

I have about 11 months until my wedding.  We have set our budget (a lot of wedding books and magazines will have a chart to help you with that), scouted out locations, and came up with the guest list.  We've also purchased some supplies for our favors, simply because they were either on clearance or were a seasonal item and wouldn't be available by the time we get married.

You should at least go try on some dresses to get an idea of what you like and what looks good on you.  You can also get an idea of pricing this way, and that'll help when you go to figure your budget.  Check out some wedding books at the library and get some ideas about location, decoration, etc.

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« Reply #17 on: February 22, 2008 10:45:48 AM »

the day we get married will be after 2 years of being engaged adn 5 years total of dating  Shocked

It's tempting to start ahead but I think it's best to wait on most things because you may change your mind, location, wants, etc.

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But I've gotten into this whole planning thing, I've started planning my planner! 

Haha, awesome!  Yeah the page you made is totally what I've been doing.  It's great to see everything coming together visually.  I'm totally a visual person so it helps a lot.

So we moves ours back another 6ish months to have a fall wedding (thats a 2 1/2 year engagement at this poing...ugh) but we have started working on our favors.  His family makes awesome apple butter and I want to honor his family by using the apple butter as favors.  We've been collecting apples and turning it to apple sauce then freezing it until we can borrow his granmothers copper kettle (which it needs to be cooked in at very high temps) and the process takes 8 hours for one batch.  It's good to know though that it can be stored in air tight jars for years without going bad.  I believe preserves and jellies are the same way and would make great favors as well for any country/rustic wedding.  Good luck with everything!
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« Reply #19 on: February 26, 2008 11:11:06 AM »

I'm engaged and not getting married until, at the earliest, fall '09.

Of course, my wedding will be heavily crafted.   Grin  I've started sketching out dress ideas, thinking of color schemes, and trying to figure out who I want to make my cake.  I've also starting figuring out what aspects I want to do myself, what I'm going to ask fellow crafters to help with, and what I'm just going to suck up and buy.

I haven't crafted a single thing yet, but I have started doing all sorts of planning.
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« Reply #20 on: February 26, 2008 01:12:33 PM »

Hooray for extended engaements.  It's amazing how many years of planning can go into an event that only lasts a few hours!!!   I'm still a year and some months off from being married, but the time is going to fly by with all the preperation that goes into a wedding.

I would highly recomend starting your planning with a rough draft guest list.  Once you have an estimate of how many people will be there, you get a better idea of the mood, budget, location options, etc.  It's all about the guest list!

A magazine I would recomend to everyone planning a wedding is "REAL SIMPLE: WEDDING".    Believe me it will help you organize your planning and set up a timeline.

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« Reply #21 on: November 14, 2008 10:38:20 AM »

I agree with many of the comments about collecting ideas, finding a vendor, and forming a guest list. I've been engaged for 2 years and have another 10 months to go. I haven't had to think much about finding a vendor because I decided a long time ago that I want my wedding on the family farm. That decided, I've spent the last two years accumulating ideas and making decisions as to what is important and what I want vs. what others (mothers, family) want. I'd suggest taking time between now and the 12 month mark to really consider what you want and what will make you the most happy. This is going to be your big day and it should be something special.
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« Reply #22 on: November 20, 2008 01:09:46 AM »

This isn't really a crafting idea, but I'll throw my two cents in anyways.  Its way too early to order a dress, but some small boutiques will let you start making payments now, so that when you do order one, you don't have to rely on credit.  Assuming you don't want to make your dress, that is.  And, at last most of the smaller boutiques around here are willing to order from wherever you like.
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« Reply #23 on: November 20, 2008 09:34:31 PM »

Thanks for the input you two Smiley

I actually have decided to (maybe) make my own dress.  This summer I'm making a few party dresses since I haven't dealt much with tricky fabric, and when I see how good I am at the detailing on those, then I'll start making a muslin of a dress.  I mean, surely I could make my own dress within 2 years?
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« Reply #24 on: November 24, 2008 06:53:40 PM »

I know your pain! P and I got engaged on April 21, 2007...and our wedding still isn't until March 13, 2010. We've gotten through it so far by focusing more on getting organized and doing our research. Now that we can start actively planning, we've laid all of the groundwork for a less-stressed wedding.
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« Reply #25 on: November 28, 2008 09:47:39 PM »

I've been engaged 2 years already (well, as of Jan 4th it'll be 2 yrs), and the wedding date hasn't even been nailed down to a specific *year* yet.  2013 seems likeliest at this point.  That's a kinda long engagement  Roll Eyes  But we knew that was what we were signing up for.

We're waiting until after college (grad 2010), then after he finishes grad school, then we're going to catch our breath from all that, and *then* we're going to set a date that gives us about a year to do actual planning.

I skim the websites and formulate ideas (muwahaha) but I can only do so much at this point... especially since it's OUR big day, not MY big day, so I need his input too, and my sweetie's OCD goes absolutely bonkers if I bring the subject up at this point.  His poor brain won't let him think about it until it comes time to pick a date.  (This is real OCD I'm talking about, not the colloquial version of the term.  He'll be better when there are fewer "steps" to be completed between now and then.)
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We're waiting until after college (grad 2010), then after he finishes grad school, then we're going to catch our breath from all that, and *then* we're going to set a date that gives us about a year to do actual planning.

I skim the websites and formulate ideas (muwahaha) but I can only do so much at this point... especially since it's OUR big day, not MY big day, so I need his input too, and my sweetie's OCD goes absolutely bonkers if I bring the subject up at this point.  His poor brain won't let him think about it until it comes time to pick a date.  (This is real OCD I'm talking about, not the colloquial version of the term.  He'll be better when there are fewer "steps" to be completed between now and then.)

Haha! sounds a lot like my situation.  We're not engaged yet, seeing as we both still live with our parents and he decided it would be better to be independent from one's parents before formally pledging to bind yourself to someone else.  I must say I agree. 

We also know we want to finish our degrees first (he's grad 2010 plus a year or two of grad school, I'm grad 2011) and start careers, so we're looking at 2012 at the very earliest.

My sweetie's not OCD, but he can be a bit neurotic, so he tends to go from fantasy planning with me to making jokes because he wants me to stop talking about it.  I'm with you on the scanning of websites, though...
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« Reply #27 on: December 12, 2008 08:03:20 PM »

Totally nothing to do with crafting.  Everything to do with my psych classes. A long engagement is actually healthier for a relationship (on average, please people don't jump down my throat thinking I'm attacking anyone, this is merely statistics).  Generally people who are engaged for 2 years or there about have a better marriage success rate than those who get married right away. 
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Totally nothing to do with crafting.  Everything to do with my psych classes. A long engagement is actually healthier for a relationship (on average, please people don't jump down my throat thinking I'm attacking anyone, this is merely statistics).  Generally people who are engaged for 2 years or there about have a better marriage success rate than those who get married right away. 


Haha, yay!  The 2nd anniversary of our engagement is coming up on Jan 4th  Grin  I dunno what it says about us that we've only been dating for 4 months longer than that... lol.  I think it proves right the phrase: "Sometimes you just know."
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« Reply #29 on: December 13, 2008 11:45:27 AM »

Totally nothing to do with crafting.  Everything to do with my psych classes. A long engagement is actually healthier for a relationship (on average, please people don't jump down my throat thinking I'm attacking anyone, this is merely statistics).  Generally people who are engaged for 2 years or there about have a better marriage success rate than those who get married right away. 


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« Reply #30 on: December 14, 2008 10:25:05 AM »

wow, so many engagements! congratulations everyone! it is pretty normal to have engagements that lasts a few years, the longest i've heard of is 5-6 years, but that's probably in the s.e. asian culture (maybe??) and engagement in my culture is a lot more than proposing. there usually is a small formal gathering where there'll be an exchange of rings (and a lot of presents) between families, some religious readings, and the girl usually wears pretty clothes and make up for a small photoshoot.

that aside, i personally feel that engagements lasting a few years (about 3 years) is ideal, for they give the couple some time to prepare. sourcing out for venues (combined for bride and groom or separate, or both!), writing guest lists, choosing colours, outfits, rings..... there's so much to think of. the earlier you start, the better prepared!

i think it's great to get to know wedding planners, photographers and videographers, make-up artists, musicians, mc's. make friends with them as early as you can, so that you'll get to see their progress and they'll know you better and hopefully give you a good discount! (check out university kids)

and it's never too early to start looking through wedding magazines and websites, i love looking at Martha Stewart's website! Looking for the perfect dress early is always fun, then you'll be able to recreate your own either by a trusted tailor or making it yourself!

have fun planning, take it easy! congratulations everyone!
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« Reply #31 on: January 09, 2009 10:17:22 AM »

I'm facing one about that long, too.  We're both still in college (different ones), so we're waiting until after graduation to make it easier on us and to better guarantee that we both get educated Smiley

Right now, we have a location in mind and colors and a theme, but you're right that there's not much to be doing this far in advance.  All I'm doing right now is going through craftster, the knot, and other wedding (and general crafting) websites and resources and starting to compile ideas.  I have word documents dedicated to different things (flowers, linens, cake, etc) that I copy/paste to when I see something I like.  I'll copy the picture and relevant description if any, and a url.  Hopefully the URL will still be there in three years, but who knows.  That's why it's important for me to save ideas on my hard drive rather than just bookmark, just to be sure.  You can even start doing that without having a specific venue, just take note of anything you like or think you can modify to fit with your tastes.

I hope all goes well, and put that crafty mind to work!
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« Reply #32 on: March 14, 2009 03:21:34 PM »

Anyone else facing a very long engagement?  I cannot get married within the next 32 months (more like 36 in reality), and I'm not sure if there are any things I can really decide before the 12 month mark (the furtherest out most checklists go).

Anyone else dealing with (or dealt with) the same thing?  I'm just feeling a little left out as all the people I know have chosen a 10 month engagement at the extreme longest.

I'm looking at a long engagement as well, probably 2-3 years at least. We'd been talking about getting married for a while, but there's various practical reasons we aren't doing it just yet. But he decided to propose recently anyway. (I think he just wanted to be upgraded from "Boyfriend" to "Fiance" *g*).

So I'm not buying anything yet. I know I'd go crazy if I let myself start buying at all. Instead, I'm having a great time looking around for ideas, changing my mind a couple of dozen times, running ideas past the FH, and finding out what's really important to the both of us for that day and not just what strikes my fancy that particular week.

For instance, we are both pretty set on the wedding being relatively small. We're both interested in it being at his house - great front lawn for ceremony, but the backyard needs work for including it as a reception area. Fortunately, we'll have plenty of time to work on it! We have a friend we'd like to serve as the officiant - we'll have plenty of time to help arrange travel for her to officiate, as she lives out of state and generally has a fairly hectic schedule.

The long engagement also means we'll have some time to save up some money. One idea I saw was to purchase a CD (certificate of deposit, not music). The longer engagement means it will mature in time to help make you some extra money to spend on wedding arrangements.

In my case, it also means I'll have time to do some work on my own house before selling it to move in with the FH. That's kind of awesome too.

And of course, I'll have plenty of time for the DIY portions   Grin
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« Reply #33 on: March 31, 2009 08:55:15 PM »

Don't worry me too let's see dating 7 years now and engaged 2 years with no date in sight...

Our problem is lack of funds and housing... yeah newly weds in parent's house would not be ideal... get brains and masters degrees aren't helping us at all! We only amassed more debt ... well he did.... I have no debt or bills so I guess it's all him but it's not his fault.

In the mean time I'm planning as much crafting as I can to cut the costs, the one thing I can't cut is the $35-75 per person reception halls! ARG! But it gives me a while to plan and make my own dress!
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« Reply #34 on: May 05, 2009 06:59:38 PM »

Congrats to all of you brides to be. 

I can only give you advise as one who had the longest engagement I have heard of.  We were engaged 5/1/1997 and got married 4/1/2005 yes almost eight years!

I got my dress very early about 2 years after we were engaged.  After awhile I was upset as new styles came out.  I even bought a second dress.  But I did wear the original style.   I would not recommend this.  I second guessed myself many times in the following 6 years.

I would as the others suggest is get ideas together.  Your guest list is the most important, even though it may change over the time.

I got a 3 ring binder, decorated it and stored all of the materials in there.    I went through so many ideas on themes, where the wedding would be, the wedding party and other things.  We actually settled on a cowboy and Indian / formal theme. 

We had wedding blessings in Apache and Cherokee,  horseshoes for the ring bearer, the unity candle, some of the pew decorations, some pew bows and dream catchers.
The girls in formal dresses, the boys in black jeans and western shirts.

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« Reply #35 on: July 07, 2009 06:44:24 AM »

I am waiting for the fall of my senior year of college to get hitched- that's October 2010. We're trying for 10-10-10, but it might end up 10-09-10 or 10-02-10, because those are Saturdays. That's about a 15-month engagement and I could not be happier with the time frame. There is so much to plan and to decide (and so much money to scrimp and save) that I told my fiance that I wanted to be engaged at least 1 year. I think he did very well proposing to me on our third anniversary (July 2). I ma very glad he proposed when he did! But it still feels like a loooong time to wait! So the first thing we did was pick our location. Now that we have that out of the way, we have an idea of what our colors should be as well as an overall theme and feel. So while I'm putting off more perishable planning points like cake and food and centerpieces, I'm keeping in mind save-the-dates, invitations, and losing some of this weight I've put on during college. I think the ramen-noodle intensive diet I might be subjected to whilst being broke saving up for the perfect dress might assist in that goal!!! In short- a long engagement is exciting! Sit back, enjoy the company of your fiance, and worry about the details later- in the meantime, be on the lookout for the perfect place!
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« Reply #36 on: July 09, 2009 08:03:37 AM »

Wow! There is some really good advice from everyone out there!

I too will be faced with a really long engagement.  We just got engaged about a week and a half ago and don't plan on getting hitched until Sept. 2011.  I have a year left of school and don't want to start a career and have all those last minute wedding plans three months after I graduate.  We're also waiting so that we can be financially on our own feet after college and before married life.

Unfortunately..... most of my family doesn't understand this reasoning and would rather have us get married next year.  It doesn't help trying to explain the college reason to relatives when my older sister got married in the fall when she was still in school- she got married over the weekend and had to go back to class that Monday!!! No Thanks!!!

Has anyone experienced similar problems? Or have any advice for me as how to deal with this situation?
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« Reply #37 on: July 09, 2009 08:17:43 AM »

Has anyone experienced similar problems? Or have any advice for me as how to deal with this situation?

Interestingly enough we had originally planned our wedding, like yours to be well after we were done school to avoid overlapping stress, but due to some external circumstances that put pressure on getting married (my Dad had terminal cancer at the time), and some changes in my school path that made it an extra year until I would graduate, and that fact that we simply we not enjoying the wedding planning process (it caused a lot of family difficulties), we ended up moving our wedding up and got married over Christmas break while we were both in school.

Yes it was crazy, but I wouldn't trade being married for the world.

So that doesn't really answer your question does it, and the funny thing was that everyone we knew thought we were crazy for getting married earlier as opposed to later.

Good luck with whatever route you go.
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« Reply #38 on: July 20, 2009 09:28:23 AM »

Don't feel too bad about the length of time, I've been engaged since January of 2001! Life has knocked us silly for a bit.
Use the time to agree on what you both want at your wedding and plan it out to relieve any big event stress.
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« Reply #39 on: July 20, 2009 04:04:29 PM »

I'm getting married in summer of 2011 also - btw, congratulations! Anyway, no, I haven't started crafting anything yet. I do have a huge microsoft word file on my laptop with pages of ideas though - that was I can finalize things on paper and have all my thoughts written down before we start getting serious about making final choices.
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« Reply #40 on: July 31, 2009 02:37:45 PM »

I'm not quite sure that I would count as being engaged (no rings exchanged), but me and my SO have decided to marry each other (I've always been confused how that differs from a "real" engagement)... though not until we've graduated etc... so that means atleast a five year wait, probably more. Ofcourse being of a planning and researching nature I've already started thinking about wedding dresses  Roll Eyes
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« Reply #41 on: December 13, 2009 12:47:03 AM »

My fiance and I have now been together 3 1/2 years, engaged since our 1 year anniversary and won't be married till October 2011 (2 kidlets later  Cheesy ) 4 1/2 years, to the day we'll have been together  Smiley
Oh, AND much to my family's disgust, we're having a teeny tiny wedding, more or less eloping with a couple of family members out of state. Budget friendly, child friendly and the way WE want it Cheesy I'm very happy and excited with the whole idea lol
I have the materials for our invitations (admittedly bought when we were planning on getting married when we first got engaged, or 18 months after... I fell pregnant, we changed our priorities Smiley ), my veil, a few different theories for my dress, which I'm hopefully going to make, the design done for my jewellery and came to the conclusion that I have to find a thicker sterling silver headpin for them, otherwise they don't take the weight of the swarovski crystal well. Oh, and far, FAR too many bridal mags that I spent probably half of my new budget on lol
They're all going to be annoyed when they realise that our photographer will most likely be a friend of mine  Wink
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