I love your nose- very clever!! I know exactly how you feel- I suddenly had my full sense of smell at the age of 25. I had no previous memory of smells other than gasoline and was alarmed and puzzled by many scents, it is definately a mixed blessing. Enjoy your new nose and sense of smell!!
I don't know if I've tried this method with red wine, but good old fashioned fells naptha laundry soap has taken out a variety of tough stains for me. It's sold in a bar and lasts forever- I got my bar as a shower gift and I've been married 6 years now and have barely put a dent in it. I wet the area then scrub with the corner of the bar. Then I use a bit of my detergent (Tide) on it and rub the fabric together a bit. I repeat this and washing until I'm sure it's out. I let the item hang-dry and then wash and dry it when I'm sure the stain is gone.
I was also going to suggest that you antique the whole quilt some way as the previous poster mentioned. If the whole thing was tea-dyed it still be lovely and would have a little antique feeling to it. It's a gorgeous quilt- a lot of work, and especially sad that this happened to your very first one. Best wishes on getting it all out- finish no matter what- your first quilt is something you'll want to keep forever- red wine or not- you'll always remember that friend!
mimiw is right- the dremmel is not the right tool- you need a glass grinder because glass must have water on it if you want to sand or smooth edges. The water keeps the glass cool and slippery so it will not break from the heat and friction- and it also prevents glass dust from being in the air and everywhere. There is also a stone file thing that is made to smooth glass by hand, but it would take a looooooooong time- better off calling glass studios to see if you can use a grinder there. Have fun!
I can't sew a stitch, but I think your price sounds like a great deal. I definately wouldn't charge any less than that or it wouldn't be worth your time. This dress and the little bolero are just darling- and don't worry about the button-hole!