I'm not quite sure where bitching about poor service and poor attitudes automatically equals taking it like a doormat. I know in my case, where I was snotted at for being a beginner crocheter tackling a perhaps difficult pattern, I asked the woman to do her job and help me find a suitable yarn sub, politely and firmly. I'm also never giving them my business again. I don't take bullshit from any salesperson, ever.
That I stood up for myself and continue to do so by taking my money elsewhere doesn't negate the fact that the woman was impossibly rude and ignorant. To me, that's what threads like this are about, sharing stories of frustration and a bit of head shaking in disbelief. The appeal of doing this in a community like this (even though I'm not a knitter) is I can whine about being pushed towards $20 skeins of yarn after asking for something on the cheap end of things without having to translate what skeins are, what's considered "cheaper" in a LYS, what a LYS is, etc.
For me, I jumped on the thread as soon as I saw it this morning and added my frustration story because there's something cathartic and very positive in sharing frustration with people who understand it and the context in which it occurs.
Out of the 3 non-Walmart/Zellers/Michael's LYS I've been to around here, there's only one that doesn't act like I have some strange disease.
My first experience was at Herrschners. I had been crocheting for about a month by that point and went in with my copy of the Happy Hooker looking for yarn to do Go for Baroque (an intermediate level piece). The woman there couldn't stop sneering at me. "You're doing that and you've only been crocheting for a month? You can't do that. You should find something easier, like a washcloth." And when we went to get a hook and I mentioned that my tension is very tight, so I should by a size or two larger than recommended, she responded with "of COURSE you crochet tight, you're a Be-ginn-ER." (It's been months and months now and I do many different projects and I still crochet tight. Pfft.)
The fancier LYS is just generally snobby and pushy. I say I'm looking for something on the inexpensive side for a project that's going to use 1500 yards or so -- she's handing me $20 per skein yarn. Plus the standard breathing down my neck and ghosting me like I'm going to rob them or something. Oi.
The only place I can stand is the Paton's/Bernat/etc factory outlet store. Good selection, friendly staff. It's pleasant being there.
I never worked with M&P just CP. But I'm assuming it holds that you don't want to use food colouring in either. It stains, well everything, but in this context most importantly it stains skin. Skin safe colourants are one of the cheapest parts of soapmaking and worth the effort and expense.
I would assume as well that if you want additives to stay floating you need to control the temperature of the soap when you add the stuff and pour it into the molds. If it's too hot, it'll sink, but if it's cooling down and solidifying it should remain suspended. At least that's the rule of thumb with body butter and glitter.