This is a more personalish post, so I separated it from the previous rules type discussion.
I really appreciate how much you guys want to help, and we are listening to you and trying to work in all your suggestions to your future plans, but I do want to mention briefly one thing that DOESN'T help.
If your post starts with a quote something along the lines of "I'm taking my ball and going home."
That doesn't help.
This isn't directed at anyone in particular, there have probably been a half dozen of these posts at this point.
All posts that start like that do is upset everyone. No one here is trying to punish anyone. We're trying to shake the bugs out of an incredibly complicated swap and make it work for everyone. It's not easy. There are lots of opinions, and they can't all come into play. Trying to look at everyone's opinions and then everything that's going on behind the scenes and make the best decisions is HARD.
It's EASY to take your ball and go home.
If people want to leave, I can't stop them. I'm sorry to see people go. But threatening to leave if we don't play your way is not a good way to get your opinions across.
I am, honestly, more interested in the opinions of the people who are willing to stick it out, work it out, and try and find compromise.
I understand that some of these posts may just be born out of you guys being frustrated and upset. But please try and think about how frustrated that those of us trying to get this all organized are as well.
I appreciate all the 'we love you guys, thanks for working so hard, etc' type posts. But when they follow several pages of posts accusing us of being unfair, punishing people and threats to leave, they just don't really ring that true.
So please, show your love and appreciation for us by trying to keep a level head in these conversations and helping us all work together to find the best solution.
I do think that there is alot of frustration going on probably because it seemed like the rug was being pulled out from under us when you announced the new rule and told us that there would be a second one that you weren't disclosing yet. Perhaps it would have been better to have had a more open discussion of the problems as they crept up rather than just having private discussions with the other organizers and then letting us know. I think that everyone's reaction was appropiate given the magnitude of the issues raised. I don't think anyone was threatening to leave to try to twist your arm into doing what they wanted, but rather to underscore their frustration. This is a great swap and I know that everyone here wants it to work!