lucid501 - your dress and bridesmaids dresses are really pretty and simple. I like that
I'm trying to find something not white or even beige/cream/antique white if I can help it... I have this problem of looking TERRIBLE in pastels. I had to wear lavender for a friends wedding and it's just... gah. terrible. but my fiance's grandparents are very old-fashioned (and very close to him, he lived with them for part of his growing up) and I don't want to upset them by having a black dress (it's my best color? haha)... but I can't really think of any alternatives... I love dark turquoise and sage green (not together but you know what I mean) but I can't think of getting a colored dress and end up not looking like the bride! it'll be our day and people will be asking "wait, which one is she?" and then I'll cry.
I dunno, it's just very overwhelming, all the little details. not to mention that we both have a lot of other things going on. I just want to start the planning (at least on paper) so when we have time to devote to actually planning it won't be all up in the air. but I'll take the advice of picking what's important to me and making sure I have that.
about who we're inviting, that's tricky. we started talking about it on the ride back from texas (it's a nice long 8hr drive) and he kept mentioning more and more people... including a few people I don't like (and wish he wasn't friends with) I kept thinking "I don't want them at MY wedding" but yeah, it's HIS wedding too, and I guess if he wants them there, I have to compromise, huh? but everytime we told someone of the engagement, they were like "when's the wedding? am I invited?" and we hadn't even talked about that stuff yet so it was like "uh, yeah, sure"... but, what if we can't afford to invite them? I really dig myself into a hole sometimes...
thanks for the advice keep it coming!