Awww... pet your kitty, he needs it. And let him snuggle you, you need it. Sorry about the purse. You may want to put the pedal in a drawer at night. Unless kitty can open drawers? dun dun duuunnnnn... another horror story!
If you know her well, then you probably already know (if you think hard enough) what she wants. Like, she keeps saying "I really want those sweet little booties." You know.
If you don't know much about her nursery theme, clothing taste, etc, go for a nice, practical yet indulgent gift.
Something every new parent has lots of is diapers. If you're crafty (and I assume you are), decorate a basket big enough to hold many diapers. Then fill it with Butt Paste, stuffies, cute little photo albums, neat embroidered washcloths, anything but diapers. Works for disposable or cloth, and a basket really is more useful than a hanger.
Clothing option: Since it's a girl, get her some of those adorable socks that look like mary janes or ballet shoes. Or make them yourself. Make velcro hair clips or stretchy headbands.
So on and so forth. Get ideas from the registry, your friends, etc, then elaborate. I believe the time for the opulent gift is the shower. But it can still be useful. Get her something she wouldn't get herself. Splurge. Make her something one-of-a-kind.
After the baby is the time to send or take her a gift for herself. Yummy chocolates, lots of goodies she gave up while pregnant, like coffee, tea, or wine. (Yes she can have them if she's breastfeeding.) Or shower goodies, or magazines or books or movies. Easy crafty fun. Whatever she likes.
Before the baby, she's focused on new little girly things. After the baby she'll be tired and need a boost. And nobody really needs twelve pacifiers and fifteen hundred bibs.
I think your mom is right when you don't know the sex of the baby and the new parents don't have a wardrobe and a room full of toys and decorations yet.
I love your diaper cake! It's HUGE! I've seen much smaller ones (with filler inside instead of more diapers) sell for more than $50. Yours looks good enough to eat! (...you know.) Good for you!
I made a small one once with cloth diapers, burpcloths, washcloths, etc, all rolled up and tied. I used a bottle as the center "hold it all together" thing. It's fun, even if a little cutesy. I suppose you could go with just about any theme though...
Have you seen the diaper wreaths? My friend made one for my shower, and it was cool. You just get a foam wreath blank and wrap and tie the diapers around it, then add ribbon, toys, pacifiers, coupons, etc. all over. It was hung on the door and greeted me as I went in. And very useful later!
Yup, now your other daughters will want one eventually... Get stocked up on diapers!
Ooo and the cd mobile thingy is a cute idea, and we all have too many of those. Very sweet and sure to get noticed.
I'd keep your ears and eyes open at local craft stores and boutiques. Depends what you're trying to sell. Go to places that sell similar stuff and browse around, ask innocent questions like "Do you ever go to shows?" and see what they'll tell you. Most vendors love to chat up the customer.
Also, don't be too insulted about the flea market line. It could be a real start. It doesn't mean your goods are inferior... most of the "weekend only" flea markets or bazaars or community garage sales are craft shows in disguise. Could be a good way to make a bit of quick cash.
Also, in San Antonio, there's always the Mexican Market. Again, depends what you're selling. But that place is hopping every day of the week, and vendors crowd the streets just to be close to the action.
I tried doing "craft markets" and "fair on the square" type booths before, but many times I have to forego it because a lot of the big commercial ones require business liscenses or at least tax ID numbers. I agree, ask the CoC about local shows.
I don't know if THE MOM would do this with her, but you could also make a "learn to sew" type kit with yarn and plastic canvas and a big plastic blunt needle. She might like the challenge, and I know with my girl, something she has to concentrate on keeps her busy (and QUIET) for hours. Also, watercolors are a huge hit with that age. Make her up a kit with different brushes, pretty papers, and a closeable watercolor set. Maybe even a plastic cup with a princess on it for the water. Oo Oo, a purse or tote to put her crafty goodness in!
I just love girly presents! Good luck!
EDIT: If you send the mail kit (EXCellent Idea), make sure to put in a couple of stamps, postcards, your address, and a promise to be her "Pen Pal". It would make her feel important to get mail as well as send it.
If you know their tastes well enough, help them pick a new look for their apartment. Get some great wall art, or a rug or a pair of lamps for the bedroom or living room. (You could put fringe or beads around a store-bought lampshade...) Or knit a chunky end-of-the-bed throw.
I say pick something she/they probably won't do for themselves, and do it for them (like making curtains or coordinating bath towels... embroidered?). If they're both chefs, they probably don't need more kitchen doodads (but who knows?). They might like a gift certificate to a kitchen store, though, so they can pick something they really need.
HELP her with the wedding and keep your ears open. She may just say, "I really wish we had that." about something she sees when you're shopping. Get ideas, then craft it up!