As I said above in my post:
for the fray look, if you notice on the back part of my skirt around the tops of the back pockets its all frayed...just rip out the stitching and use a grill cleaning brush. The bristles should be really rough and wire/metal-ish. Just rub around the areas you want to fray...I found this technique saves a LOT of time and gives twice the effect of the old knife trick
Oh, yeah I saw your post. I need to try that too, except I don't have any grill cleaning brushes at the moment- I should go rob a McDonalds . I was just wondering if anyone had some more tips.