I'm Italian also and I used to have the same problem. I gave up shampoo about 4 years ago. Its not a gross as it sounds. You just use conditioner to scrub my scalp, rinse, put conditioner on the rest of my hair, comb through and rinse. I use a small amount of gel and let it dry. After about 2 weeks my hair was more manageable and less frizzy. You can check out the book Curly girl for more info. Hope this helps.