Don't despair. I am of the belief that every person knits differently. It's a highly personal thing, and as long as the end result is ok and you're able to follow patterns ok, no worries.
My mom taught me to knit, and she's dutch, so I am a pit-knitter (keep my right needle tucked in my armpit). But different needles and different projects call for different methods, so keeping an open mind is what it's all about.
Where I fall down is in the sewing-things-up stage. I just make it up as I go along.