I'm all for criticism and I believe honesty is always the best policy, as long as it is told in the vein of friendship and is constructive, therwise its just rudeness. Too many people believe if you dont have nothing nice to say than dont say anything and use it like a mantra to beat open-minded people with.
And back to your original post about the BUT hanging in the air, well I dont get that feeling from the craftser forum (long time lurker that I am). Otherwise I would not have joined the forum at all if that was the vibe the was portraying, where I would be judged physically.
I say to all bring on the constructive critism about my Projects(when I post them) as I have only just finished a 6 week sewing course, and any hint and tips I can get the more I will continue to learn.