as far as the last two posts (vintagechick, and thebon) you're both right and that is how i feel. the thing is that i DID temporarily get lost in the "buy buy buy shuffle".
i wasn't judging the girls who are on the message boards (and i'm sorry if it came across that way), i was critical of the wedding INDUSTRY which can make us feel that we need stuff to make us happy. many of these girls do diy it, as a matter of fact, i picked up a few tips from them.
Oh honey, I certainly didn't think YOU were judging those girls at all! It's just that I'm a party planner and I read a LOT of wedding sites and it seems there's this dividing line between the $100/plate and 100% DIY girls. It becomes almost a competition on each side of the fence between who spent the most/least amount and how much better they are because of that. It's really sad that what is supposed to be a day of commitment can so easily turn into a 3-ring circus!
You're right...it's EASY to get caught up in the "buy buy buy shuffle", as you put it. But that's the world we live in. EVERYTHING is geared toward making you feel that what you already have is inadequate and obsolete and that you must have the newest thing (be it electronics, cars, clothes or wedding stuff) to be a valuable human being. But kudos to you for pulling out of the shuffle, back into the land of self-appreciation! Wasn't Eleanor Roosevelt that said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"? That applies to the wedding industry, also.
When we got married, we chose to have a wedding that most would call traditional. However, it was because that's what WE wanted, NOT because that's what the neighbors were doing. It was a church wedding (VERY important to us), an afternoon reception, etc. And I wouldn't change a thing. It was what we wanted and I didn't care that I happened to choose some elements that were popular at the time...it's what I wanted and I would have wanted it even if no one else liked it.
As everyone else said, in a few years (or even months), the details of that day will fade together. What remains in your memory is how you FELT that day. That's what's important.
Good luck with your wedding libby. I'm sure if you stick to what you and your FH want, it will be a beautiful day no matter what.
It IS easy to get overwhelmed by the "buy buy buy" mentality in our society. Advertisers attempt to make us feel disconnected if we don't go along with their "everything-you-have-is-obsolete-buy-the- newest-thing" craze. Weddings are big money. The industry's purpose is to make money, NOT to help you make a life-long commitment. Wouldn't it be interesting to know how much of their yearly profit comes from second, third, fourth-time, etc. marriages?
That said, judgement is judgement. It's easy to bash the girls who choose to have the storybook, fairytale type wedding with a caterer and florist and chair covers and favors. However, it's still HER CHOICE. Bashing someone for going mainstream is just as bad as bashing someone for DIYing it. Consider that the girl who hires everything out might not have the same craftster-power that you possess. She may not be able to cook or arrange flowers or whatever. Perhaps working with professionals in the field is only the way she can create the wedding she wants.
It's important to give one another grace, particularly during stressful events. Weddings bring out the best and worst in people and it's in those times that we should allow people to be who they are, regardless of whether they mainstream it or do their own thing. After all, it is their day, not yours. While they may not be the choices you would make, they're still THEIR choices, regardless of the motivation for such choices.
Do you have a local church that does banquets? There are a few churches in our area that have their own linens and will rent them out to non-members. Another option is a local university. Ours rents out linens VERY inexpensively.
As for buying plastic liners, our local Dollar Tree has them in many colors (including red) year-round. Do you have a Dollar Tree or something similar (where everything's $1)? Party America is our local party store, but I know it's a chain. Here's their website:
You know what you need to start doing? When people give you advice like that, say "thanks for your input", smile, and then do what you want. Because trust me, in the next year you're going to go crazy if you try to listen to everyone or accomodate what everyone else wants/needs/thinks about your wedding. Its your day, your wedding, you only get one, so do it YOUR way. (and your fiance's way of course!)
I've been to a lot of weddings, and I really liked the ones where people decorated their own way and did their own thing.
This is the best advice you will get in regards to wedding planning. EVERYONE and I do mean EVERYONE has their own opinion of what you should do for your wedding (and later your career, family, parenting, financial planning, etc.) They do it b/c they love us, but ultimately we have to do what is right for us in our situation.
Now, since I said everyone has an opinion, I'm going to share mine. I think what you have planned sounds absolutely gorgeous and sounds like it will all tie together really nicely. If you're concerned about the centerpieces looking too mismatched, keep the other elements all the same. I would put a lantern, a small terra cotta pot or tin (if you use tins, I'd use all the same colors if I could) with a mum or other fall plant and a small gourd or pumpkin. That will give you an odd number of elements (which is more visually pleasing than even #s), the other elements you wanted, but keep the centers coordinated. They'll all be a bit different b/c of the natural elements and colors of glass, but give you a cohesive look.
Like I said though...everyone has an opinion and mine might not be the best one for you.
I usually just lurk on the paper boards, but I LOVE this idea!!! You inspired me to make some envelopes this weekend. I didn't have the stuff to try the tute, but I did make some envelopes out of cardstock and vellum. I'm going to pick up the supplies and use your tute next week.
BTW, I use my heat gun to soften the glue on the envelope I want to use as a template. It comes apart a little bit easier than when it's cold. Hope that helps someone!!!
PS: I made an envelope out of vellum and the seams split really badly. All I did was very lightly score the seams to make them fold smoothly. Any suggestions?
I did a party like this for my brother's 9th birthday. We purchased fishing nets from the party store and hung from the walls and ceiling. We borrowed an old trunk from my grandmother to hold the gifts.
My mom made a treasure chest cake that was adorable!!! She made a cake and iced it with chocolate icing. She used a piece of cardboard covered with tinfoil. It was also covered in chocolate icing. She used dowel rods to prop the cardboard "lid" of the treasure chest. We bought all sorts of candies...gold foil coins, candy necklaces, ring suckers, etc. The treasure chest was filled with the candies. She used fruit roll up candies to create the straps on the chest. It was an adorable cake. Here's a pic of one I found online that should help you out. It's not exactly like the one we had, but it's really cute, too. http://www.birthdayexpress.com/bexpress/planning/treasurecake.asp
That year my brother got a bike for his birthday, so I created a treasure map. I tea stained a piece of regular copy paper. When it was dry, I used paint and a thin paint brush to create the treasure map, making it look old. When I finished, I rolled it up and burned the edges (be careful...it'll burn up before you know it!)
I'm sure there were other things we did, but I can't think of them right now. It's been 5 or 6 years since we did that party. Good luck!
BTW, if you don't know how to tea stain paper, here's a simple recipe. Place 1 cup tea or coffee in a shallow baking dish. Add 4 tablespoons vanilla extract and mix thoroughly. Add sheet of paper for 2 minutes. Remove paper, crinkle up, flatten, then place back in the tea stain for 5-7 minutes. Place on a cookie sheet and sprinkle with cinnamon. Bake in a 350 degree oven for 15-20 minutes. When the paper cools dust off the cinnamon.
Someone on HGTV used tape and plastic to protect everything, then used a spray paint for high heat surfaces. I don't think they USED the fireplace, but it looked 1000 times better. I'm sorry I don't remember the show it was on. I was flipping through when I saw that and thought it was a great idea (since my mom has the same problem with her ugly fireplace).