I'm somewhere in the middle. I've had a couple of micro-manage partners (to the point of "here's a link to EXACTLY WHAT I WANT, NO CHANGES PLEASE!!!") and I made what they wanted (and hopefully liked!) but I couldn't help feeling I'd been "hired" to make something on commission. It got worse the one time my partner misread the questionnaire and made my swap item from the "do not" part of the questionnaire. oops
Sometimes I think people put all that micro-manage kind of info in the questionnaire and 'about me' section of the profile so they don't have to answer the same questions swap after swap after swap... That makes sense, but then there's not a lot room left for 'let's chat about your likes/not-likes' to start to know each other.