Well the good thing is that you budgeted for a dress, so whether she likes it or not you can get what you want, because she can hardly buy you a dress and force you into it. If you don't belong to the Offbeat Bride Tribe you should, because there is alot of discussion about this very topic.
I hope you find the dress you want, and stand your ground! If it makes her feel better offer to go and help her find a poofy dress for her to wear for her next birthday.
Hee hee According to my mom, she doesn't have birthdays and when asked her age she says "over 25"! She has sent me some dresses in my email. Think 1990's Soap Opera Wedding. Mmmmmmm, ruffles and puffy sleeves....lovely. Yeah, I've decided to just get the dress and tell her about after. I will say that there was a sale or something. It's mean, but I think once she sees that I'm happy, then she will lay off. If she doesn't lay off then...well, I don't know. We'll have to wait and see.
What is the Offbeat Bride Tribe?